Ex taken dd to visit family during lockdown

[Socompletelyoverit]

Hi I'm just looking for advice/opinions on this as I don't think I'm being unreasonable but it would be helpful to have strangers opinions too.

Dd is at her dads this weekend. It's his weekend and we've kept up usual contact whilst following the guidelines. Tonight he FaceTimes as she is upset, obviously tired and wanting to see me. I then realise he isn't at his house, but at his mums. He has taken her there for the day. They were all at home as I could see/hear them.

His mum works in a care home, his dad for the police and he has two younger sisters.
Dd is currently still attending school as I work in a hospital. I have been following the guidelines and only going out for work. I haven't seen my family in weeks.

I just think he has been completely irresponsible and has put so many people in danger through his actions. I'm so angry I haven't even the words.

I am now inclined not to send her again until this is all over. What are people's thoughts on the situation. Thanks.

This makes me so angry. Alot of men just dont get it! It's a worldwide crisis yet they go about as if it doesnt affect them. You need to tell him that although the rules say he can still have his daughter he cannot be visiting family or friends.

Yes it's totally fucked up and I'm really sorry. This will now connect you to the care home and to ransoms the police meet. It's totally irresponsible and illegal.

But nothing you can do. Apart from next time say the two of you have a sore throat and no visits to (stupid) dad until this is over.

Yes a lot of men are behaving like this. And stupid women who think they're in charge so can do what they want.

Don't withdraw contact. That would be a total overreaction and makes you look controlling and as if you want an excuse to undermine his relationship with his child. Instead, tell him that contact can continue, but that he should adhere to Government rules and not take her to additional households.

There’s no being reasonable with some people though. What if he doesn’t agree to no household mixing?

I think I'd have a far bigger issue with this if I was staying home and isolating, but working in a hospital and dc going to school then still having contact in other homes, it doesn't seem quite so bad. Having said that you're perfectly within your rights to ask him to adhere from now on but I wouldn't advise stopping contact

Thanks for the replies. I spoke to him today and said that I wasn't happy that he had taken her out when I'm trying to minimise the risk. She's already got more risk of getting it due to still being in school and me at the hospital. Also the fact that anyone could have it with no symptoms I just told him he needs to listen to the guidelines from now on. Hopefully he listens!