Should I contact my babies half siblings?

[Ajlaisy]

My babies dad wants nothing to do with her and never has, he has a child from a relationship when he was 17 he never mentioned to me when we was together and it only became apparent after we broke up and 2 children from a relationship he was in that he does see regularly I fully believe his ex of the 2 he does see and the other 1 he doesn't see don't have a clue about my baby. I think it's extremely cruel considering we all live in the same small town that my baby grows up without any siblings even though she has 3 half brothers, do you reckon I should contact the mothers of these 3 children and ask if they'd want to allow their children to meet her or should I just leave it alone and see what happens in the future. It just all seems so cruel to me. Any advice welcome

I would be tempted so they had a sibling relstionship but then i would worry that my child would still not see the dad whilst the others did. That would be very hurtful to a child

I never thought of it that way, that would be horrible for her! I know he only sees his first child maybe once a month if that but sees his other two multiple times a week. And it really bothers that first child so maybe she is best just kept out of it, my heart breaks for her that she has a half sibling 3 streets away though

So my exdp and his ex had this whole situation happen when I started dating him. Contact stopped while I was pregnant. Did the whole court thing, a lot of his ex didn't want me around the dss. I had only seen him once. I stayed away because it wasn't my place to be involved.

Exdp MH was getting extremely abusive, he stopped contact last minute with dss, after going back to court.
We separated but he was acting very dangerous.
I called the ex - obviously she was u sure for the first 5 minutes of the call because she had this idea of me.
Well we spoke for two hours. He actually turned up at her out the blue at night shouting at her.
Since then we both haven't heard from him.
BUT

We have met up, was supposed to for Easter again, but lockdown. I spoke to dss on the phone yesterday.

We are going to make sure the dc know each other, that they know that they aren't the issue and that they can still have a relationship.
Me and dpex, text each other and get on extremely well.
He was the problem- he is the deadbeat dad.

So I would contact them.
Be prepared that it may not go as well. Also i am the trying to create a relationship with dss to - build some trust.

Don't worry about all the ifs and but of it.
He may decide in time to have a relationship or stop the relationship with them.

One this I would say is joe old is your lo, because I know that I wouldn't of been emotional ready before a year. So you could wait for a bit.
Also be prepared that when you do the ex may not be happy.
But it's about your lo, they don't have to see each other all the time but once a year. It will help them if they decide to have more of a relationship when they are older

It's awful he won't have a relationship with your child but will with others!
He's obviously a right dick.
I would probably start contact as your little one will probably find out about her siblings as she grows up if they all live fairly close.

My children have a older half brother they do not see . I have no intention of making contact so be prepared that it might not be welcomed . Not saying not to, that's up to you

Depending on gender, you need to make sure they don’t form romantic relationships in future. A remote chance, I know, but it does happen.

She’s still a baby so you don’t need to do anything for now. She isn’t missing out on anything right now.

As she grows, I think you should be honest with her. Let her know that her dad has other children with different mummies, so that it’s not kept secret from her.

Opportunities for them to meet may arise in the future. Watch and wait.

This is not something to break your heart over. You need to be thoughtful and responsible and mature and don’t try to force some sort of EastEnders style revelation.

I'm with @Mintjulia on this one
I have a friend who has a child with a man who had 2 children with 2 other women in the same small town as my friend who he had zero contact with.
My friend has a boy and the others are two girls.
My friend tracked the mothers down and asked if they wanted to meet - 1 did, the other didnt but my friend was content as at least she knew who these children were.
She too, was scared of them meeting and forming a romantic relationship at teenagehood or whenever

I would contact her siblings from now I would tread carefully. Sibling bonds bed to be created from early on as it’s easier. If the child’s mother doesn’t want to know well there’s not a lot you can do.

I need some advice. I've found out my daughter has a half sibling out there from my ex baby daddy and I think him and the girl he was with are broken up. I can't help but be curious about the child and about what all happened. I am a single parent. My childs father left when she was around 2 years old and hasn't been involved since. She's 7 years old now. I can't help but wonder because my child and this woman's child is connected. So I'm just wondering if I should try to have a polite and respectful conversation with her. Idk if it's even worth it because this girl and I don't even know each other and it might just cause problems.