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Am I wrong for contacting child maintenance

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Ajlaisy · 08/04/2020 22:33

Logn story short I started "seeing" my babies dad for 3 weeks end of June and we had sex once on the 13th of July and I got pregnant we saw eachother everyday of those 3 weeks and I thought we was heading towards something hence why we head sex, although he thought different and didn't really speak to me again afterwards abiut a month later I found out i was pregnant I went ahead with the pregnancy even though he had asked me not to, he did speak to me 4 times during the pregnancy unsure of whether he wanted to be there for her in the end he decided he didn't she's now 1 week old and I have contacted him 3 times to get him to come and meet her with no avail so today I have contact child maintenance services as I feel he should be supporting her financially if he isn't going to be there for her in any other way, some members of my family and friends agree with this and others don't others say he didn't want her he made that clear so he shouldn't have to pay. Am I in the wrong for wanting a financial contribution towards nappies food housing toys and clothing?

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fuzzymoon · 08/04/2020 23:03

He needs to support his child. He should have thought about whether he wanted a child before having sex.

timetest · 08/04/2020 23:34

Of course he should support his child financially. You were quite right to contact cms.

indemMUND · 08/04/2020 23:37

No. If he didn't want to be responsible for a child he should have ensured he couldn't create one. He is liable financially whether he chooses to see the child or not. You've done the right thing.

HillAreas · 08/04/2020 23:50

If you’re not a big enough boy to pay to feed, clothe and house your own child then you’re not a big enough boy to be sticking your penis in anyone’s vagina.
End of story.
Don’t listen to any “poor ickle manz was forced” apologist bollocks.
Your baby deserves to be financially supported by her father. Actually, she deserves a lot more than that but money is all you can legally force out of him so do it with your head held high.
And congratulations on your new arrival Flowers

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Ajlaisy · 09/04/2020 07:42

Thank you, I felt so bad when people started saying its a bit harsh but it wasn't my first go to move I wanted him to be there but him and his new gf have decided between them not to be, and it's not like it's his first baby he's done this to after we "broke up" I found out he had another child he didn't see or pay for, and now he's with a girl who has a 2 year old and will happily be there for the on that's not his but not his own, so personally I think he needs to grow up and start paying for things he's created whether he wanted to or not

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timetest · 09/04/2020 08:30

Ignore people telling you it’s harsh. It’s harsh for the children this man walked away from. Contributing to your child’s upkeep is the very least he should do.

JustinMyJustin · 10/04/2020 16:41

Who on earth among your friends and family said that?Shock Of course he has to support his child. You’ve done the right thing.

carly2803 · 10/04/2020 21:22

course your right!

but stop contacting him. He knows where you are, let him ask you to see your child.

Also for god's sake give the baby your surname

Starlightstarbright1 · 10/04/2020 22:08

Just another echo... you did the right thing.
I wouldn’t chase him further - it hurts.... focus on your baby .

Yes leave it to the cms

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