talking to a guy on msn, for a week now, we have swapped mobiles, why do i feel so out of my depth.

[pirategirl]

I like him, but he doesnt ask many questions, i tend to be the chatty one. he comes across as kind, and that. Maybe i am having doubts over wether to meet/ maybe i am embarrassed about my figue? Heis quite shy, we have both been hurt, and have siad we are both nervous.

Have tentitively spoken about meeting pos this weekend.

I am not sure, somehow, i like this attention, but part of me can't even bear the thought of putting myslef up for scrutiny and rejection. Part of me can't be bothered to let anyone in on mylife.

Then i thik about him all the bloody day, and at times WISH i had had soemone in my life.

I havent dated anyone in 12 yrs ffs.

Do youthik i might be thinking he's not really a potential boyf, or am i being stupid becuase we have not even met.

shall i wait till he suggests meeting, not sort of ask him.???

help!!!!please ta

difficult one

don't meet him while you are feeling uncertain, it'll go wrong!

perhps just keep chatting for a while longer?

Hi, I think that you should wait a while before deciding to meet him. A week is hardly any time at all. Chat to him some more get to know him as a person before jumping into smething straight away.
good luck

is he good lookin?

rich?

married?

do you know his surname?

where he lives?

can you google him?

he's very good looking, he has web cam, he has split up with someone about 2months ago, but she finished with him.

He has moved back to his parents for now, he works hard, he lives about half anhour away. Yes i have a surname, and his home address!!!

I think he feels nervous, in the same way as me, re getting hurt.

How the hell tho, do i get on with life if i cant get over thaT-ie my ex doing what he did, which i didn't think was making me feel that bad anymore until anothe rmale has popped up on the scene, i feel like a bloody teenager.

If i keep being insecure, then thats goingto be a huge turn off, its stupid.

yes speccy, i am an open book aren't i. I want to be chased a bit u r right.

I need to reset myself somehow, life was less interesting but more normal b4 we started talking.

google him!

thought that as only for rich or famous people??!!! ok will do

nothing, i mean i even know where he works, he's not hiding anything! Al theinfo i have been given i could totally make his life a misery!!!

He's quite an unassuming bloke, his ex had 2 kids, and he misses them, he just seems normal.

It is prob me who is the feckin weirdo, uptight one.

i was just not talkingonlineto him for about half anhour, as i was dealing with dd, and then posting on here, he's watching the footy i think,

i just said hi and he replied almost b4 i pressed send fgs.

i need shooting, or maybe i need to get my head straightened.

why not just treat him like a regular person, meet hiim and see how you get along. expect if either of you were perfect and trouble free youd never have got to speak to each other. and you may fancy the pants of each other, and whatever you do dont think of the Kia car advert

well his tv is right by his pc, dont worry i am as pessimistic and cynical as they come.

i am being cool now thanks girls. ihave said, lets just talk 2morro, and see how it goes!!!

sounds good...just keep talking and when you feel more comfortable, then meet up. you are obviously quite comfortable chatting....so just see how it goes. Good luck! x

sorry missed tha kia car advert?? please xplain!!

Definetly take your time before you meet him,I think anyway.
And if you do decide to meet,decide on a public place and arrange for a friend to call you up on your mobile,just in case things don't go well and you need a fast getaway!:-)
Sometimes tou can wish so hard to meet someone that you kind build your hopes up,it's better to take it pretty slow.
He also just separated from his partner,and it can take a while to get over that.
Just play it by ear,good luck sweetie:-)

hiya thanks

have sent him an email today, after much thought, saying I am not sure its a good idea to meet and that i feel he is not really in a 'place' where he can give me what i am looking for.

Yes i lust after him, and him me, but i just cant give any more of myself to someone unless it feels more 'right'

I gues i am lonely and the attention got under my skin.

If he replies and is convinciong, then maybe we cantake it from there.

I am more vulnerable than i thought.

pirate - its the one where a couple meet to go on a blind date, he's real nerdy looking in his tank top, shes a bit of a babe, prudy but you know shes game. by the time they get to cafe or wherever, he says 'why not get married, have kids, dog, massive mortgage, work me bollocks off to look after you all, go grey, get combover etc'. she says ' yeah sure cos you have a crappy foreign car''

hope your weekend is a blast, if not i'm 40, single, good for a laugh and got dumped recently

single dad lol. ok lets just get married lol. why not, i am sure the formula i used last time was a crock of shite!!

We did talk again last night, he feels I am getting too worried, and I agree, he still likes me, so will see how it goes.

He replied quite well to what I had to say, and wasn't put off by my concerns. At least Isaid what i needed to say, i have to speak my truth, evn tho it might be unfounded.

I think he is a bit mixed up, didnt expect to meet such a fab girl as me eh . We have both only been on the site a week.

I need to take a chill pill.

Take it slowly is my advice, I had been chatting to a bloke for about 6 weeks on and off, we finally met up on sunday, got on very well and saw him again last night.

I totally understand your concerns, he sounds like a nice guy but you do need to be careful.

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