My husband walked out in jan when I was 24 weeks pregnant. We have a 3 year old and have been together 8 years.
The split was a complete surprise. He never once told me that he was unhappy or suggested counciling or anything. He just snapped over an argument and left me.
He has been so awful to me since. He's blamed all his finical issues, family issues and his issues with bonding with our first on me. In fact he's taken no responsibility for anything, just said that I am to blaime for every single issue we had in our relationship. When he gets made he's verbally horrible to me. Last night he told me that despite the fact he promised me he would, he's not going to give me any money towards our new baby bits and will not pay off our remaining wedding debts. He said that I am to blame for all of his debts and he's given me enough money. When he gets mad he threatens childcare and court at me all the time, to bully me. He even threatened to take our newborn away from overnight once he's been born and that I should bottle feed him instead of breast and it's selfish that I won't sacrifice that. Last night he said that if I want more maintenance from him (he gives me £100 and has our son 1 over night a week) then we'll go to court so he will have him more and won't need to pay me. Last night when we were talking he was swearing at me calling me a fcking idiot and to shut the fk up. I never swore once. He's so mean to me verbally when he's mad.
I honestly feel like he's starting to emotionally abuse me, but I don't really know what constitutes as emotional abuse. He just makes me feel so small and I feel like he's trying to destroy me finically to punish me. I never had concerns about him watching our son but my concerns are now that he is just a compulsive liar and doesn't respect my wishes as a mum. I don't trust what he does with him, for example he took him to soft play when he had chicken pox!
I don't want to start a war so close to my due date, but I am really struggling with how he's been towards me and continues to be. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I just don't want to suffer anymore :(