how do you deal with your kids weekly activities that fall at weekend - is it just bad luck?

[mistressmiggins]

just wondered how others deal with it.

DS has just started swimming lessons on a Sat - no choice as the other 2 days I work.
I accept that he misses 1 in 4 so he can stay at his dads

DD has just started ballet & next yr there will be a show which obviously she will want to be part of.
Do I tell H its bad luck?
Hes not very keen on swapping weekends.

Just feel so angry that yet again his actions & our divorce is affecting the children. He doesnt see this at all & infact its probably my fault for agreeing to ballet lessons in the first place

How does it work when the children are older & choose to do weekend activities through school etc?
Do you force your children to miss weekends or are you harder on exes? My trouble is he doesnt live local (he moved 3 hrs away when he left us so his choice)

I'm very lucky because ds1's dad lives locally, but I know other people who say that if the activity is on a Saturday am, then dad can take the child to the activity and back for his weekend after it finishes. that way they might miss the friday night but still get time with dad and get to do their activity. would that work?

it would work for me but H not agreeable.
there is no way he would pick up on Sat & take home for just one night
I have resigned myself to the fact DS misses swimming lessons but can just see the trouble ahead
not my fault or the kids as H decided to move away from us