Dont know much about my exp new wife - would this concern you?

[Redfox]

My ex & I split 3 years ago, my DS is now 5.8. After we split up, I moved to be nearer my family, lets just say, from Bath to London and my ex still lives in Bath. He has DS every other weekend; he drives from Bath on Friday afternoon to London to pick up DS and drives back again only to return on the Sunday afternoon. His girlfriend would often travel with him and he is committed to DS but he can be controlling.

Exp married his girlfriend this August and DS seems to like her. Exp & girlfriend live near her family and I don?t know much about her family or who will be in contact my with son. Exps family live elsewhere.

I have met her but only very briefly about 6 / 7 times, normally outside the car when exp was bringing back DS from a weekend, we talked about the weather.

However I do not know much about her. Would this concern you? She is, after all, my sons step mother. I don?t know how to remedy this? A meeting would not be practical and unfortunately ex & I do not have an easy relationship to discuss this. Opinions welcome

Can you phone her - or phone their house when your ex will be out, on the pretext of asking something about your ds, which you 'forgot' to ask your exp? You could have a brief conversation and you could drop in that your ds speaks well of her - might open her up a bit?

Open and friendly relationships with dms and sms a good thing imo.