Ex blocking all child contact due to coronavirus

[Longlivekennyrogers]

After some opinions on this.
Last weekend was supposed to be contact with my child, but ex contacted me on the Friday to see our child had a fever and a cough for a week so he’s isolating. Fair enough. (Would have liked to be told sooner that he had covid 19 symptoms but there we go) ex also told me she had had fever and cough the week previously.
Today ends his 14 day isolation and next weekend will be contact with him again. I’ve been regularly asking how he’s doing , today she says he’s fine, recovered from all symptoms but they are now isolating totally as a family so no contact for the foreseeable future.
I’ve already gone a fortnight without any contact (not even a phone call) i don’t know whether she’s being difficult or is being sensible. Naturally I agree with following government guidance but given that they’ve had symptoms and recovered after isolation it’s a bit...ott to completely isolate themselves and not even arrange FaceTime contact between me and our child when both households are symptom-free and taking all advised precautions?

No reason why you shouldn't be able to face time or whatever it's called. Have you asked her?

Yes and she ignores me! She has a long history of doing everything possible to avoid contact unless our order explicitly states it has to happen - the order doesn’t specify telephone or video contact therefore it has never happened even though the kid knows how to use a tablet better than he can tell the time!

The FaceTime embargo is unacceptable. Face to face contact requires more circumspection. Definitely push for phone/digital contact, there's no justification at all for preventing that.

How old is DD? Seems strange that she doesn't want contact with you.

Thanks - but with regard to no direct contact for what could be months, when none of us have any symptoms, is she correct? No public place would apply to contact it is just driving our child 5 mins down the road to each other’s houses?

It’s not our son who doesn’t want contact it’s his mother deciding that contact can’t happen because she’s decided to permanently isolate despite recovering from covid symptoms while in 14 day isolation.

I'd anyone in their household one in one if the at risk groups?

It's a really tricky situation and not one anyone has ever had to worry about.
Both us and DCs Dad are self isolating at the moment, but what will happen after that is anyone's guess.

Not even allowing facetime isn't on though
We've video called my nieces and nephews because they missed us. We usually see then at least once a week. DC are teens so contact their Dad themselves these days. I always encourage them to call him though.

Not as far as I’m aware and the ex and our son have already had a fever and cough and recovered so anyone at risk I’m contact with her household will have already been exposed iyswim!

To be fair, my xh has been bloody brilliant about this. And that's the only positive thing I've said about him in 7 years.
I'm in the vulnerable group and currently self isolating with DC as they were coughing this week.

He has been very understanding and even said they should stay with me indefinitely or until I've had enough of them. He's been talking on the phone and bought mother's Day presents over today which he made the DC wipe down before taking in the house. The kids then jumped in the shower.

I've fallen out with a friend over this who is a dad who is having his DC this weekend. He is full of a cold apparently but still working as a tradesman. His is in the vulnerable group, as are his DC and his parents. He is still going ahead. We aren't speaking.

You've got to make your piece with it but at the same time, the talking on phone and face time etc should be non-negotiable.

Are you stilling working outside the home and potentially coming in to contact with carriers if the virus.

They might have had it, they might not. I'm sure you wouldn't want to put your DC at risk. Her reaction is probably of fear much like the panic buying, she needs to control things because everything is so out of control at the moment.

The panic/novelty will wear off however she should facilitate digital contact.

On the opposite side ex and I are keyworkers (medical/teacher), both still exposed and working he is having DD more so she doesn't have to spend too much time at risk at school but she is at risk from catching it from both of us. At least your DC is safe and at home.

Do you have a court ordered contact order?

Legal advice on child contact arrangements:

Do parents have to stick to court orders?

Court orders are meant to be stuck to, and they can be enforced if they aren’t.

If it is safe and practical to do so you should stick to them and you should expect the other parent to do so.

Contact should now go ahead.

Maybe show her that from
Cafcas xx