Feeling so vulnerable- Coronavirus

[YaasssQueen]

Single mum, 2 dc 11 and 5. We are fit and healthy normally and I am not worried about the health impact on us personally- it might be nasty, but not dangerous I don't think.

But it has made me realise how vulnerable I feel- without anyone to talk to about this, how best to approach it, what will it mean for society, how can we help others, anything. It's not like in am especially worried but it has made me feel so lonely.

I want someone here to weather the storm with, someone to hold hands with and be strong with and it's just me :(

Yep, it’s times like this I feel so alone. I read in Spain they are allowing only one member of the family to go out to get supplies, how does that work when you’re a single parent? I have no one who can go out and get stuff for me. I’ve also found out I’m in the “at risk” category because I am very overweight (bmi over 40) so I’m “suppose” to isolate for 12 weeks obviously impossible

I’m sorry, that sounds rubbish. If you don’t have someone to pick up food for you etc then please shout out on your local Facebook page or similar. There are loads of people who want to help (it’s a coping mechanism for lots of us) and who are in a situation where they can do something. There is no shame in asking for help. I’m worried that our Britishness will stop our communities from supporting each other. Please, if you get stuck in isolation and no home deliveries then ask for help.

Sorry we can’t come and hold your hand irl but there is support online. Sending you a virtual hand hold.

I’m on a local fb group but people have made it quite clear that they are aiming it at the elderly. I’m 31 and appear healthy. In fact I have no health issues at all but because I’m over weight (I’m a size 18) I’m at risk apparently 🤔

I think we will be fine in practical terms. I have friends, I'm not socially lonely, it's just that this has thrown into sharp relief that I haven't got another adult to face things with. And it's upset me quite a bit.

I feel exactly the same. I have 2 amazing children 2 and 5 months. I have no family locally, generally we r pretty healthy I just carry extra lbs 😂😂, but means Im in the at risk category but to ensure I can get food, nappies and formula in I have to take my children with me. Just feel so alone in it all and panic is starting to set in.

Sympathies. I was (and am) a single parent for a long time and this is when it bites. Reach out - covidmutualaid.org/local-groups/ scroll down to find local groups. Many are offering to pick up stuff and a listening ear. x

Same here. I'm watching the dc's like a hawk in case they get ill. Although now school is off all I have to do is get through two weeks then we might be in the clear.

@YaasssQueen I completely get this. I feel exactly the same and not many people around me can understand. I have a boyfriend who I saw this weekend but won’t be able to see now I don’t think, it heightened my feeling of being alone once he left and the children returned. I just want someone with me to hug me when I’m scared and tell me it’s going to be ok. I feel you.
I’d be happy to keep in touch with you if that helps, I know you’ve probably had offers from friends of calls and FaceTime etc but it’s not the same is it.
Look after yourself.

I was looking for a thread like this. Friends with kids the same age have a dh, or siblings, someone. It’s just me and my 2 ds’s, 9 and 11 locked in. I have asthma and a bmi of over 40. I have my mum but she’s difficult at times, 79 with health problems, so self isolating and 30 miles away. That’s it.
I’m really scared I might die, that I might get ill in the house and the kids might have to manage that. That they might get ill or die. That this could go on for months and months and still we won’t hide from it because there will be a second wave. That this is what life is now.
I’m getting shit from work who seem determined to pressure people in to the office and even with this lockdown it’s all about getting in to see clients. I’m trying to o work at home with the kids here, stressing I’m not doing a good job of that or looking after them. I can’t see how I can go get food and I’m getting increasingly paranoid the virus will find me the moment I leave the house.
How I wish I had someone to share this with but clearly I’m a fat bugger so I can’t get a partner. Only half joking too.
It’s a terrible scary lonely time and only other lone parents will get what’s it’s like for us.

In the same position. The scariest thing is if I get the virus and are hospitalised. What will happen to my DC. Not worried about myself.

@MsInsomniac @ZombieFan I think all we can do is take it a day at a time. Most people are not being hospitalised so try and not keep that in the forefront of your mind perhaps and tell yourself that you’ve likely survived worse illnesses before. It’s not the virus itself that’s scary for the likes of us I don’t think, it’s the vulnerability that comes with being alone. I know I would give anything for someone to put their arms around me at the end of the day to comfort me, that’s what I’m missing so very much.

Not quite the same, but my DH is military and will be assisting with things, even if he has time off be won't be coming home, so it will be months until we see him again; so just me and DS here. I am scared about being poorly and having no one to look after him (even if at home if I'm stuck in bed can't call someone to help as normally would). Its a bit different as there's a lot of networks for military spouses, but are there any local FB groups you can join? Friends you can facetime? Do you get on with your neighbours? Sometimes just knowing someone is nearby even if you can't go and see them can help, our neighbours are lovely and although can't pop round for a cuppa at the moment, comforting to know they are there. I know what you mean though, I wish there was another adult in the house at the moment, it's hard isn't it.

Can I join you? In lockdown with 2 dcs. No family local and dcs Dad is 100 miles away. Am I supposed to isolate from kids within vv small house (1 loo, 2 bed, no garden)? How do you stop kids needing cuddles? How do you feed them? Where do they go if I'm in bed for 3 weeks/ in hospital? All too much.