Corona19/ not worried about getting it more about coping

[snowdaynoday]

Obviously I do not want to get the virus at all, but is anyone else more worried about how they will cope sick with dc?...

I have two teens and a ds2. Whenever I'm sick I'm usually really bad for one day and then just struggle throughout the rest as I have to be mum.

Been separated from ds2 df for 3 months, he was never very good that's why I was only alone to be sick for 12-24 hours.

But he's not around to help ( have a nonmol), and my eldest ds df does the odd day of fun but wouldn't even dream of actually helping if they were sick.

So how are other lone parents coping with the idea of the virus?
I myself am not freaking out, just aware after trying to buy a pack of loo roll for the house and there wasn't any.

@OneMoreWish good question! I think it worked because between us (probs over 100 members) there’s always a few mums esp at the weekend whose kids are on contact visits with their dads, plus I get the impression there are a few with older teenagers who they can leave for 15 mins while they pop out. But the crucial thing is it wasn’t about reciprocity. No one helps someone because they think they’ll get a favour back (like the babysitting clubs, which I completely share your frustration with - they actually drive me mad as the other mums don’t seem to realise how privileged they are and of course I’ve never been invited to join as they know they’re not going to get a babysit back from me!). The mums do it because they feel solidarity with each other. I suppose it’s paying it forward when you can, but definitely not expecting it back or as a debt. It just works because we understand each other’s position better than most.
That said, please don’t hold back on reaching out to other mums in your area you know through baby groups or something. A lot of them just aren’t aware how hard it can be at times like this to be on your own, but if you explain and are up front about the support you need to get through this, I’d hope you’d get some offers of help. It doesn’t help you right now, but I also just wanted to say that as your kids get older and go to school, you’ll meet more single mums in your area and be able to build up more of a mutual support network. But for now: please don’t be afraid to ask. Most people are kind, they just don’t always see the struggle unless it’s pointed out to them

Thank you @Twocatsandcounting yes it does feel rather hard at times xxx

Pp great advice and tips

I'm hoping that more people help one another because everyone is jumping on self isolation with out really thinking about what they will need to cope.

Obviously single parents are going to have it hard, but also other people I don't believe realise how much daily contact they have with Other people, and two weeks in your home is not great for mental health.