So, I got pregnant with ds at 16. Married his dad and continue to have another ds. Relationship broke down and the years that followed were hell!
Court orders but not actually sticking to them because coke and alcohol and down time were important.
In 15 years he has only taken the ds's away to a UK holiday twice. Even though he goes away every year to parents villa.
He has been an absolute arse ache.
Anyway, recently I went to CMS because he wasn't paying enough and he was repeating the same pattern as before with the ds's. making and breaking promises, telling them how poor he was going to Thorpe Park, cinema and holiday with GF but not doing anything with the Ds's.
Well he kicked off, I was award £800, re got it changed after going back to them to £390. 5 months I've still no payment ( CMS said 8 weeks lol)
Well the point of the post is that I have bite my tongue so much over the years, made excuses for him so the ds's didn't feel unloved, I have never stopped the contact, I even text him to let him know the ds's are unwell so he can text them.
So Ds 15 has been making jokes ( not funny) that it's only 9 months until he will be having his baby. I told him straight that if you did make such a choice ( I know full well he won't) that you will support your lo, you will have regular contact and pay support.
His reply was ' I know mum you wouldn't let me be that guy, you would never let me away with not taking responsibility'
But that's is one thing I learnt from dad, how to go about not supporting your kids'
I was shocked. That he had come to see it on his own.
I said ' wow sweetie.
He said ' I do not know how mothers do it but I thank for you do!
I know it's a long post but I just wanted to let people know that the truth and all those night you get know sleep are noticed.