I know it is still VERY early days.My ex (partner of 13 years) recently told me he wanted us to split(see my other posts),and it really did come out of the blue.
It's been only a few weeks,maybe 3.
I felt ok at first,was doing surprisingly well.
But yesterday it all kind of sunk in,big time!
I dk if it's beacuse his parents came up to see our daughter (they offered me financial help so that me and my little girl can move to a larger home,at the moment she doesn't even have her own room,not great,the living room is basically a playroom,and we have a very large bedroom so she has got her own bed in that,not ideal! But,we were just about to move to a bigger flat when he broke up with me.He was going to pay for the majority of the move though as he earns more,so I think that's why his parents stepped in and offered me help so that I don't have to save for another 6 months before we,my girl and I, can actually pack up and move!)
Anyway,yesterday I left my ex to have a talk with his parents whilst i went out to get some "me time".I almost had a panik attack on the bus(!),I felt like I couldn't breathe adn I just wanted to break down and cry(haven't had much of a chance to do that lately,what with being busy with my daughter and work!).I managed to calm myself down,but in evening when the ex went out and my daughter was asleep,it all came out.I couldn't stop crying(for weeks I had been unable too,guess it was the chock of it all).
It feels like I have now reached the lowest point,and from here it can only get better.
But for you who's been in the same boat,how long did it take you to get over the worst of
the aftermath of the split? I soo long just to be happy again!