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Ex refusing to return son

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SiempreDot · 04/01/2020 22:01

Cross posting here for traffic and hopefully a bit of advice from lone parents who've experienced similar.

Ex came to pick up our son on friday and saw there were moving boxes. Temporarily moving to parents whilst a new house two minutes from ours is renovated.

I haven't told him our new address due to emotional abuse and stalking - this was based on legal advice from a solicitor who said there's no legal reason you have to disclose your address.

We are in an appeal hearing on a Monday where he has appealed the judge's decision which ruled against himS He has now text me to say he is refusing to bring our 3 year old son home because our son has said apparently we're moving to Brighton (we live in the north). This is totally bizarre. I believe he's trying to set me up before court on Monday to say I'm some kind of flight risk.

This is one of a long list of inflammatory things he's done before court. On Christmas Day, he refused to return him at the agreed time claiming his car had broken and then all his family had hidden their cars down a side road when I arrived.

I don't know what to do if he doesn't return him tomorrow? Can the police be involved? The court order says drop off at 5pm on Sunday.

If he does fail to to return him, I'm minded to say in court that he isn't safe to have our son because of his decision to engage in these games. Can someone advise me how to play this in court and whether the police could do anything tomorrow?

Really out of my mind with worry.

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Stressedout10 · 05/01/2020 21:04

OP has he brought your ds back?

SiempreDot · 05/01/2020 21:58

No he refused to.

Phoned the police several times. They wouldn't do anything. He messaged me saying I turn up at his house, he would phone the police. Really recasting

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ApplePie99 · 06/01/2020 14:55

OP what happened today?

Afrigginggoat · 06/01/2020 18:35

Hope you got on ok today. His behaviour is awful.

Toll2 · 06/01/2020 18:37

Gosh this sounds really stressful z I have no advice but hope all is ok

SiempreDot · 06/01/2020 20:59

Thanks everyone.

He refused to even drop him at nursery today and kept him with his sister so I wasn't able to get him.

Anyway, the judge ruled against in appeal. Third time he's taken me to court and third time he's lost. The judge wouldn't attach power of arrest until he breaches it again which I was disappointed with but on the whole, pleased with outcome. Wonder when he'll start learning that when you can't act in a child's interests, it will show through in court, no matter how expensive your barrister is.

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Afrigginggoat · 06/01/2020 23:32

Well pleased you were successful but when do you get him back?

june2007 · 07/01/2020 00:17

Well I can see why he might have got worried if child mentioned Brighton and the circumstances. But now the court has decided hopfully he can comply.

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