Ex husband disappeared

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I've been married for 15 years but it wasn't a happy marriage. Husband changed after we had daughter, moody and just did his own thing we had talked about it and discussed separation and I told him I wasn't happy.

This was last a year and a half he told me he'd met a German woman online and she was his sole mate, he became unkind and told me how he didn't have to pay towards his daughter as it was money for me and I had to pay my own way. I was in a joint tenancy but he threatened to not pay half and left to live with his mum.

The German woman made contact on Facebook with me and on the phone and basically called me a bad mother and how I was nasty to husband and that he wants to be with her. I told her good as he's an awful person and I couldn't care less.

He gave his daughter a message last June after having gradually dropping contact that he had moved and that she had to accept it. Daughter was hurt and upset, got angry and told to apologise and then he simply blocked her and has not contacted her since.

Csa can't do anything and he told them months ago he was out of work so had a nil assessment. His family backed him up 100% as when I asked them at any time what was going on about him and daughter and where he is they said i had been abusing him and it's not their problem.

I just wondered what anyone's take is on this? He was a warehouse worker back home and I wouldn't have thought he would find work in German so I wonder what has happened to him, daughter is getting better but he damaged her badly by cutting her off when he left.

My family have been great and think he might be in trouble, I really don't know but I find the whole thing so weird although I can't say it's not like him to do this!! Would it really be that easy to just up sticks and move?

They were hassling me to start divorce before he left the country and he was coming around with the divorce paper threatening me to sign it. I didn't at the time as I said I would not be bullied, but now he has started divorce proceedings about 6 months ago and I have heard nothing more!! I would like to divorce him so I can feel that it's final and finished but have no power to find out as I don't know where ex is!!

Sadly, I only think he can be traced if he is in the UK. Then I think the CSA can have him through HMRC? Hopefully his new woman has realised what a dick he is and kicked him out.
You're well rid but he should pay for his child.

Thank you for your response scorpionqueen, it does astound me that women will take on a man or woman who's so keen to leave their child and doesn't keep up contact! Then guess it's the other person being difficult? I believe he used our daughter as an example of being a good family man as he was trying to get her to talk to new woman and introduce her as new spouse BEFORE he's left home. At this point daughter who's twelve new enough to point out it was too soon.. pictures all over Facebook and then together on the WhatsApp account he had with daughter. Friends pointed out Facebook, he didn't like having his behaviour pointed out and then made excuses not to see her..
Pathetic behaviour from a 45 yr old man, I hope she sees through him for the sake of her 3 children as she must be mad 😠

I am trying to trace him through remo but don't hold much hope for maintenance as it seems he wanted to disappear... I'm just crazy as I can't believe the lies and treatment of his daughter.