Counselling

[enjoyingyourself]

I have repeated the same mistakes with my current ex that I did with DD's dad. Either I pick the same man with the same problems or there is something wrong with me. Either way I would like to go to counselling to talk through things and ensure that any future relationships are better and if no relationships in the future that I am fine regardless.

The problem is I have no family in this country or nearby and no friends that could help.

How do I do it? DD(5) is in after school club as it is for 1.5 hours a day so I can work and I have no hobbies (evenings off) that I could swap with. Do counsellors ever come to your house or could I bring DD, no experience with it before but it's something that I really want to explore.

Anybody had any good experiences with online ones?

I bring my little to counselling with me

Recommend counselling.
Some big employers offer Counselling free to their staff (nhs/prudential/councils) check with yours if you work for a large employer.
Relate offer counselling to individuals some people think they’d only do marriage guidance. Check locally.
Private counselling can be Don online but check counsellor registered with professional body like bacp.
Best not done at home if possible too many distractions and not many places offer child care, all depends where you live.
Hope this helps

I don’t think most counsellors would be happy for you to have a 5 year old present, it might be seen as making it difficult for you to fully concentrate and be open? But quite a lot of counsellors will do telephone appointments or via Skype, which might be a way of having an evening appointment without needing childcare.

Agree with previous poster that your employer might be a good place to start.

Definitely look for someone registered with an appropriate body, eg BACP. The Counselling Directory is a good place to start looking for a private counsellor.

I haven’t mentioned NHS counselling because my experience is that waiting lists are long and there is little flexibility around appointment times and locations (understandable given the demand and limited resources).