Christmas presents from dad

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My DD dad doesn't buy her anything all year and for Christmas gave her clothes , 2 t shirts and one pair of trousers. She's 1 years old. AIBU to think that absolutely no thought went into that whatsover. He doesn't have any financial problems and pays child support when it suits him. I know it's not all about gifts but still. He didn't even open the parcels with her that's what annoys me more. He brought them in on Boxing Day, stayed 10 mins and left and then I opened them with her when he had gone. Would you say anything about his lack of effort or just leave it?

No thought went into that? What do you think he should have bought then? This is kind of weird thing to complain about.

Well as a parent I know what my one year old likes and so should he so I would have thought he would have at least bought 1 toy for her to be excited about. What seems like lack of effort is the fact he just left the parcels sitting there then left. Would have been nice to see my DD open a present her daddy brought in and seeing her wee face light up that's all.

She’s one. She won’t know. Next year she may be more ready for toys though.

Get him kicked into touch about paying maintenance for her regularly though.
If he won’t take him to whatever the child maintenance payment enforcement people are called nowadays.

I wouldn't waste your time and energy worrying about it. She won't remember either.

@Elieza , true. And yeah I probably need to start getting more foreceful about the mantinence thing

Atleast she got something. My kids dad doesn’t see them at all and didn’t get them any presents. I think you’re moaning for the sake of it.

@PumpkinP , sorry your kids dads a waste of space. And maybe I am. But when he is a shit dad and doesn't do any parenting anyway , small things maybe annoy me more then if he was a good dad.

Go through the CMS for the maintenance and then next year you can buy her some nice things of your choosing assuming he won't be interested again

Her face wont light up about clothes, if he was there or not

It is frustrating when the nrp doesn't step up and be a good parent.

The kids dad bought them a ton of stuff. Mainly clothes. Kids were thrilled and that is all that matters. Although I'm resentful as he hasn't paid any child support all year and I'm struggling to meet their daily needs.

Pick your battles. You can't make them step up. Sort child support out. Although they haven't managed to get me any money. At least the arrears are adding up.