How to let someone know you're single (when they know you have a child)

[Treesinthewind]

Not sure how to phrase that less confusingly!
Ok, so I am a single mum to a 3 year old and am currently living with my parents, so am in no real position to start dating!

However, I have met a lovely man through work (but not someone at my work) who I would like to continue getting to know (and also fancy madly). I have felt like we have a connection and emails have ended with 'look forward to seeing you soon' etc, which could definitely just be being polite but I am hopeful of a friendship if not anything else.

Anyway, he knows I have a DC, because I've talked about him, but my slight concern is that he is going to have therefore assumed I have a partner and, if he is interested, wouldn't let me know.

Is there a way of alerting him to my singleness? Latest email has asked if I am looking forward to Christmas and ended with 'Hope you have an amazing Christmas with your family." I'm trying to think of a way to reply to this that reveals I am not attached, and failing!

Any ideas?

Oh also, should I add him on Facebook? We have a lot of mutuals from the same work field so it wouldn't be weird to do so.

I have the opposite problem! I am married but men always assume I’m a single mum! I have to find a way to mention that I’m not available How funny!

I’d add him on FB, is your status set to single?

Is he single?

Just reply ' yes it should be nice, X (child) and I live with my parents so plenty of family time. What are your Christmas plans? "

How about saying something like, yes looking forward to it just a quite one being just me and (child's name) but lovely all the same?

Has he made his single status clear?

"Would you like to go out for a drink?"

Don't know if he is definitely single. No wedding ring, and no talking about partner. So yes, also need to establish this - like the idea of asking his plans in order to do so.

This thread has made me realise I'm totally not ready to actually ask him out, which is useful to know!

Yeah he might not be single

Maybe some fb stalking? I really fancied someone, no ring so hoped he was single but some fb stalking showed he was in a relationship so that was that! You have to be careful as he might just be being friendly and you’re taking it to mean something it’s not.

I think the “....with your family” is an implied question, he may be interested!

Well he’s only gone and asked I’m free for a coffee! (and via Twitter DMs not our work emails). So am meeting him tomorrow (he asked on Monday). Am a ball of nervous energy! We’ve seen each other at various professional things and in group situations, but this is the first one on one non-work occasion.

Love this update 👍

Ah exciting OP! How did it go?

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