Boyfriend thinks I'm destroying our relationship

[banksy3245]

My boyfriend or May soon to be ex, has it in his head that I'm destroying our relationship because I want to keep our baby. I'm 15 weeks pregnant, he doesn't want the baby at all.

Apparently I'm the cause of him not being able to sleep, I'm messing with his mental state when he's not ready to be a father. He's trying to manipulate me and push the blame on me when none of it is my fault. He had been there at our first scan, and to all our counselling sessions but now all of a sudden he's saying all of this. I think his friends have got into his head!

He's saying I don't care about our future together, he asked me a really hurtful question:

'Would I still put his name on the birth certificate' - he wants out, he doesn't want me or this baby and I can't force him to stay. It's just so sad, he's not the man I fell in love with. I've noticed some very toxic traits in him which I hadn't noticed before.

I don't know what to do!

I agree with the other posters who say that the relationship is over. You were together a month when you got pregnant, so you didn't have any time to get to know each other.

I would terminate (if I put my logical head on) this simply is not the right time. If you decide it is the right time and you want to continue, then best of luck to you

5mths and pregnant after a month and both at Uni. Why were you so keen to go ahead with the pregnancy? If my DD came home I know what advice I would give her. I think your fooling yourself if you think your ex is suddenly going to step up . Your not in a strong relationship and both of you have your whole future ahead of you after uni. Seems you have made the decision and expected someone you dated for a month to be happy with it. I would be interested in the contraception conversation you both had too. As it's easy to blame the boy but I know many girls who lied to boys about them being on the 'pill' or the pill failed . I think you need to go home and speak to your mum

I don’t think that you are ready to be a parent yet yourself? You say that you want your parents and his parents to help you make the decision about continuing the pregnancy , worry that his parents won’t be able to provide financial support. The decision is yours and yours alone i’m afraid.
Could you manage as a single mum, you may get emotional or financial support from your family but you may not, BF may stick around but may not, if he’s at Uni and not working you won’t get much financial child support from him.

He's telling you clearly that you're on your own.

He'll never stick around and be any kind of father.

Regardless of your eventual decision about the pregnancy, tell your parents and dump this waste of space.

If you do have the baby, don't put this loser's name on the birth certificate.