Couple of hours? How long?

[singlemamaxx]

my DS dad has requested to see him a couple of hours on a weekend day each week. ( yes that's all ) . How many hours would you take from a couple? I assume 2?

I'd say a couple is probably two to four hours... do they mean on a couple on both weekend day? Why so little? How old is dc?

Well I'd suggest if he is seeing him so little that you arrange proper set pick up and drop off times. And include a mealtime so he has to at least shoulder some responsibility.

Why not suggest a 10am pick up and a 3pm drop back? Then you can at least make something of your free time.

@mildlymiffed he said I day a week and DS is 16 months old. He's quite unreliable and can't really be bothered , there's other issues I dong want to write on here as it could be outing

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz that's a good suggestion about the meal etc and I will do that. He can't have unsupervised contact but he should still be taking some responsibility for this during his contact time regardless wether he is alone with him or not

So will the visits be supervised by you? Or at a contact centre?

If you are supervising, then make the visits out and about somewhere. Keep your home as a sanctuary. Don't let him in.

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My ds’s ex was not allowed unsupervised . Mil supervised at soft play for 2 hours a fortnight when he could be bothered to turn up.

Depends on concerns

If he is unreliable you may end up stuck at home all day waiting to see if his going to appear at all or at what time.

I would suggest you take the couple of hours suggestion literally. 2 hours, you meet him in a natural place to handover on the previso that you will only wait for him for 15 minutes after the agreed hour and he has to return him to the same place 2 hrs later.

He doesn’t need to have supervised access if he is not a proper piece of work, but some men prefer to have grandma around to help out, which is ultimately also good for the child.