What help i am entitle to? Help needed

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Hi all. Long time lurker haven't posted much but name changed for this just in case. Sorry if this is long but i will try not to drip feed.

I have been with my partner for around 5 years now and we have a 15 month old DS. It wasn't really planned but because we were in a good place financially and relationship was good ( i am 33 and DP 28) we decided if it happens it happens and after 6 months i got pregnant. DP was happy, over the moon and i was a little scared as i didn't know what to expect. I had very long labour and being a parent hit me like ton of bricks.
My partner works away (mon-fri morning, back Friday afternoon to Sunday) so all the parenting i am doing myself since DS was born (feeding, naps, night wakings etc) i could probably ask DPs parents for a bit of help but because i am a FTM i rather do it all myself.
DS always been a shit sleeper and i was soo exhausted i was even considering sleep consultant at some point but his sleep got a little bit better. Sleep deprivation really made me miserable.
I left my full time job to look after DS as we decided it would be too much for his mum to look after DS for 9-10h a day 5 days a week as he is a very lively baby and his parents are not young anymore too run after him. And my partner doesn't want to send him to nursery.
Sooo to the point now...my partner announced few months ago that he doesn't want to be with me anymore because i've pushed him away and we aren't right for each other. I admit i got distant towards him as i just couldn't bear the thought of being close and i couldn't understand why. Now thinking about it i may of had slight PND and because i got no help from DP i resented him. He is like a disney dad, doesn't feed or change or do any chores just fun stuff with DS even tho i asked him to help me but all he says that i am better at it.
I was trying to fix it for the past 3-4 months trying to get closer. I found out he's been messaging someone else behind my back. He was denying and denying, lying through his teeth and when i've told him that i know exactly who she is he finally admitted it and blamed me that i've made him do it because i've pushed him away 🤯 i know you will all say LTB and i think after trying to work things out for the sake of DS i i will have to as DP doesn't even make any effort and its all me. He takes it but doesn't give anything back. Sooo i am coming to wise mummsnetters for help what do i need to do.

-His parents are living with us because of financial problems so i cant make them move out i will have to find something for me and DS
-I don't really have any income (i work some weeks 1 or 2 days but need a car to get there and its not consistent work) and i am not claiming anything

Thank you for reading (i know its long)and any help would be appreciated.

Also i don't know DPs earnings as we have separate accounts so cant do any calculations.

Well the basic you would get is rent at your local lha rate. Child element of 231 and single element of 317, this is per month and your child benefit that you get now.
If you go back to work you will get 85% of your childcare paid and your whole award will reduce with earnings.
It will be difficult at first but you will manage. I dont have any advice on the emotional things but that's where you stand financially. If it's a mortgage or is slightly different and you would find it difficult to get rent help if you have a house you both own already.

@Amber2019 thank you for your reply.

We live in rented property.
I just don't know how i can rent anything without any income. Can i apply for council house or anything like that?

@Amber2019
Can i claim even tho we are still living together?

I think it depends on your area, obviously council is hard to get. If you could get the money together to rent privately that would be easier. As soon as you did you could then apply for uc. The problem is getting a landlord who would take you. For council you would need to be classed as homeless to get temporary accommodation then you would bid on something permanent. Its definitely not easy and I'm sorry you have found yourself in this situation. Is both your names on the tenancy? You could go to the council for advice, explaining the situation. If your partner was to give a letter stating he was putting you out, that would help getting a house, only if it's his tenancy though.
I'd definitely go to the council and explain the situation, they will have proper advice for you.
In the meantime if you could look for some work around your partner you could then use that income to rent privately, then apply for uc topup and get your little one into a nursery.

You could possibly claim if you can prove you arent together or sharing financial commitments. You could then go for an untidy tenancy, they would help to pay half the rent for you. Again as you can imagine that isnt easyto do either buy it's common. You can apply online for uc, then when you go for your appointment at the job centre
You explain your situation. You are split but have no money to go anywhere and that he isnt contributing to you.

You can claim Universal Credit towards your rent and a person allowance for you and baby. You need to declare all those who live with you, set out who is liable for the rent and be honest that your ex partner lives with you but does not contribute .. or how much he does as child maintenance.

You make the claim online. Google 'claim Universal Credit' ... make sure you are on a .gov.uk website !

You can also do an online benefits calculation on 'turn2us' google them too.

you need to alsoget your name off the house!!

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