Recordings and DD dad

[singlemamaxx]

Basically would phone recordings stand in court is the main question? My DD is still a baby and myself and her father have never been together since I found out I was pregnant. He's become verbally/emotionally abusive towards DD when she cries and generally it really angers him. Ive had enough talking to him about how shocking he is being and I wont put up with it but during his visits I have a few recordings of him behaving like this with her., not swearing at her but talking in an aggressive manner to her and saying things that you'd never want anyone especially the father of your child to speak to your them like that. He has no guilt and doesn't care and I just get a shrug from him. Yet he still messages for contact. The contact is supervised and always has been as I know he won't harm her when I'm there but I don't trust him and am becoming increasing worried. The only reason I'm not telling him where to go and let him fight through court if he wants is I've heard so many bad stories about horrible men still getting unsupervised contact. What would everyone do in my situation? He is also very narcissistic and lies through his teeth and also very different in messages than in person. Any help would be appreciated

Also can I add he isn't on the birth certificate and I would fight him all the way in court but my daughters welfare is stopping me in the sense of if he still visits I'm there to protect her so he won't harm her but yet her and I have to deal with his behaviour whereas if it goes to court I don't know 100 percent what would happen. I feel stuck

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What outcome do you want? Do you want for your daughter to have no contact with him at all? Do you believe that's in her best interests?

childlawadvice.org.uk

Try these people op , you can find free legal advice here.

@zebraspot I believe that it's not in her best interests to be with a father who behaves like this towards her unsupervised as I believe he could snap and go further but at the same time I can't go on like this with him. I don't think any mother would accept having to listen to that. Best case scenario would be no contact until he can either show change which it doesn't look like hes going to do because nothing I have said works and until she is at least old enough to talk.

@OvalCanvas thanks, I will have a look

rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/family-law/

This website is helpful. I think you are doing the right thing by only giving him supervised access. I'm in a similar situation and have found it very difficult. But my son is older now and has decided on his own that he doesn't want to see his dad.