One of my children is in hospital. He is very unwell but will be OK. For a short while it was touch and go.
Ex has a girlfriend who isn’t a girlfriend. Been with her a while. From an outside’s point of view I would say he clearly feeds her lies about me and her unnecessary anger towards me caused my eldest child to issue a ‘her or me’ ultimatum some time ago. As a result they no longer live together and he tells the children she is no longer in his life. It is clear to me that she has never stopped being in his life.
She turned up at the hospital. He brought her in. Introduced her to medical staff as his partner. Had her sit by my child’s bedside like she was some kind of doting step mother. She has caused my children so much distress. I ignored her completely but I could see him keep looking at her and exchanging those....I don’t know, knowing looks about how awful I am. Child had some spots on his arms and she kept asking what they were and I saw him look at her with that ‘see, she’s a shit mother’ look. Fact is, child was desperately ill whilst in my ex’s care and he didn’t seek medical help. It was only when he was returned to me that I realised something was seriously wrong. It took 3 trips to the doctor and a final trip to hospital in the early hours where a junior doctor realised something was amiss. None of this was my fault. If he had been with the ex another night I believe he would have died.
My eldest is angry but holding it in for his bother’s sake. Why do people do this? Why turn up like that? Why did he think it was OK? I just wanted to tell her what an utter bitch she is, remind her she was the kind of woman I despise, happy to stand by a man who deliberately doesn’t support his children (self employed). Ask her why, having never met me, she thought it acceptable to slag me off to my children. I felt so helpless, knowing her presence would distress my child. 12 fucking years and his desire to get one over on me, rather than put our children first, is as strong as ever.
I just want out. I can’t keep on with this. He got everything he wanted. He took my home. I have paid for everything for 12 years. I am exhausted. I work so hard. And now a sick child and he can’t even put him first.