Single parent loneliness

[TwinkleMerrick]

Christmas looming and I'm starting to really feel lonely. The ex walked out on myself and DD last Boxing Day. Glad to see the back of him tbh but still feel sad about being alone. I'm a single mum to a 18 month old, working full time. Have wonderful family who help whilst Im at work, but once DD is in bed and the chores are done I feel so lonely.

Doesn't help that I can't see how I will ever meet anyone ever again. I feel so down about myself, I feel unattractive and like I have nothing to offer. Then on top of all that I have massive trust issues and don't particularly want to let someone into mine and my DD's life who might walk out on us like her dad did.

Does it ever get easier? Any light at the end of the tunnel? Or is it just winter blues? Any single parents have any advice or just want a rant? Pls share and help me feel less alone xx

I have no advice but in a similar position. Stay strong.

I have 4, ex is absent and no family help so I will never meet anyone again. Pretty depressing really.

My only advice would be enjoy making your life the best it can be just the two of you and don't focus on meeting someone else but on getting all other aspects of your life where you want it to be?
I have been a single parent of two for 4 years or so now and have grown to love it. We have had so many amazing adventures just the 3 of us we would never have had if I had stayed with my ex partner.
I can't help with the meeting someone as other than a few very casual relationships I've really not pursued meeting someone and just focused on the kids.
I have had friends who have done the online dating ect with mixed results but it's never something that has appealed to me tbh.
Having gotten out of an unhappy relationship I'm in no rush to settle.
I do think happy people attract the right type of people though so focus on making yourself happy and making memories with your lovely little one.
Sending hugs as I know it can be hard when making that initial adjustment to being on your own

What a lovely post @disneydreaming

Could your family sometimes stay for tea for your company or to babysit if you would like to join in an activity after work, maybe badminton or running club?

It gets easier! I felt just like you a year on and even two years on but eventually I decided I'd like to think of myself a little and went on a few days. I'd been alone for 2.5 years, healed myself from ex's damage and realised what I wanted and needed frim a relationship and then I met the most wonderful man and three years on were still going strong. The baby/ toddler years are relentless for everyone, single parent or not, but it won't be like this forever. Just give yourself some time

Hiya love, I’m a single mum of 4. My eldest is 6 and youngest is 1, so they’re all still little. I’m stressed to the hilt, have been on my own for around 18 months now and it has got much better since it first started. I’ve definitely got a bit more of a routine now and made some friends. But I agree it is such a lonely time. Feel free to PM if you ever want a chat