Help, sexual abuse in the family.

[Sugarpuffz1989]

I don't know what to do, I moved 3 hours away from family when I was 17 and I moved back near family at 28. when I move back down to be near my family again I had two children, both girls 10 years old and 5 years old I was starting to get my life back together after a 14 months long court case involving serious domestic abuse from my ex and then my daughter who has global delay came out with the fact she didn't want to see her uncle because he was getting her to be naked and other stuff I don't want to disclose. I don't know where to turn he has been sentenced to 5 years but my whole family has been torn apart. I've always been super close to my mother but the fact that she still sees him I understand as I am a mother as well but at the same time I've never felt so alone. I don't know whether I will ever trust another man or ever be able to move on and I don't even know anybody where I live now. How am I ever going to forgive myself for happened to my child and help her move on from it when I feel so low? Advice please, I'm so low

Oh I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much and your poor little daughter. I’m sorry I really don’t know what to advise as I’ve not experienced anything like this but I do know you are so brave! I just want to give you a great big hug and I hope your mum understands what you’re going through and gives you all the support you need.

Go to your gp and ask for some specialist counselling and family therapy for your dd
With support you can get thru this

Oh goodness. You don't have anything to forgive yourself for. Your daughter trusted you to tell you. That's massive. That shows what a great mother you are. And now the fucker is in prison! You couldn't have done better than that.

Oh yes, you got your children away from an abusive ex!!

From where I'm sitting you're like a superhero!

You're blaming yourself for what someone else did. He shouldn't have done it. It's his shame and his fault. And that goes for the uncle and the ex.

You are doing such an incredible job in the most utterly horrific circumstances. But I think it's difficult to appreciate it when you're in the middle of the mess. I would also recommend some counselling, to help you feel differently. You've been through a lot in these situations yourself and having a bit of help in processing it all may be helpful.