With my little one (9 yrs old) always been the doting grand parent, despite causing me anxiety at times with things such as name calling me, telling my friends lies about me and being happy highly critical of my parenting. I rationalised she was a good nana but that we had a difficult relationship.
Pat year or so my little one has told me She has asked her questions about my life, told her personal things about me, and also told her that I don’t do certain things. I spoke to my mum about this and that it wasn’t suitable it carried on so I took a breather. AFter a while my mum told me she’s knew where she went wrng and said it wouldn’t happen again. Well twice this week she has been highly critical of My little one for things like not listening to her and shouted when she did not look at her when she was speaking. I walked in the room to hear the last part and My little one got upset so I intervened and said that it was not acceptable For her to do that as she was tired and hungry and had just got in. She started arguing so I asked her to leave as we were tired. As she went she started shouting and told
My little one ‘its not your fault it’s your mums for the way she has brought you up’. My little one has been in tears, iv told my little one that until nana behaves betters we cannot be around her as I won’t tolerate anyone shouting at her or telling her off. I feel she keeps picking on her and it broke my heart to hear my baby defending their actions especially when they were ones typical for a child that age (tired and watching tv when being spoke to). Earlier on the week something similar happened whilst I acknowledge it’s not great behaviour it certainly doesn’t warrant that response from an adult .
I just want to cut contact now as I feel that it is moving toward the emotional abuse I myself suffered (which I’ve only just started to realise that it was as my confidence has always been very low and if someone says something Ian my fault I tend to just think I’m rubbish). Am
I being too harsh ? My child was crying about the behaviour but Also because I had said we couldn’t see her whilst she was behaving like that. I want to protect my my little one but I also want to do the right thing. I know if stop contact a world of hell will
Follow but I really can’t allow this. There’s is also a part of me that wonders Is it me?