New single mum overwhelmed

[Alonemum93]

I’m a very new single mum to an amazing 18 month old boy, I’m just feeling really emotional and overwhelmed, I cry at the drop of a hat. I’m sleeping on an air mattress at my mums with little one in a travel cot at the moment. I just have so much to sort and just feel so bad that I’m letting my son down. I’m just hoping there’s other single mums out there that can give me advice/reassure me that it does get better 😢

Heya hun !! Sending you a big hug !! You havent let your child down at all !! There are reasons why you had to leave !! I'm in the same boat! And it's tough!! Xx

Scrivs17 thank you, sorry to hear you are in the same boat. I’m really petrified about what the future holds it’s so scary and I just want to do the best by my boy x

I’m a single mum to 4, it’s hard but you get use to it. Takes time.

I was in a refuge when my Ds was that age .

My Ds is 12 we are in a stable home, he is entering puberty so in toddlerhood behaviour again .

The young years are tough but it does get easier

I'm a single mum to my DS12 & have been since he was a baby.
Let yourself recover from being newly single and you'll soon find your feet being a single mum. I love it

What happened op?

I'm a recent single mum too. It's hard work at first but you're not alone

Don’t feel guilty to have some time out. It is a necessary part of surviving and coping with parenting alone.It may just be a nice relaxing bath once your DS has gone to bed or perhaps the odd evening out with friends. Whatever your time out is, it is essential for a happier family life.
It will be hard managing the practical things in life, such as balancing work and home, cooking and chores, etc. Trying to split yourself in two is a common thought but you can only do what you can do and pushing yourself too hard can result in an emotional burn out.

Please don't worry about letting your boy down. You're the best mum he could ever need and the only one he wants or has. The simple fact that you worry about being a good mum means you're doing your best, like all of us.

It can be difficult alone when you feel like you're burning the candle from both ends (especially if your sleeping arrangements aren't ideal). But accept as much help from friends and family as is offered and whatever you do don't feel guilty about that either. They care and so they offer, if it wasn't ok they wouldn't offer.

It WILL get easier and you will be fine. So long as your boy is warm, dry, safe, fed and loved he is doing just fine too. xx

Thank you everyone! I’m better this evening, But riciekrispie22 you’re right I was already burning out before all of this happened so that advice is something I will definitely pay attention to! Soupforbrains you made me cry! Thank you!! I really needed to hear that it really has helped me and my mindset ❤️

@Alonemum93 you're very welcome good luck, and feel free to message me if you ever want a chat.

Hope you’re okay OP, I’m a single mum to 4, 6 and under. EX hasn’t seen the DC, or made any effort to contact them in 6 months. It’s so hard but we’ll all get through it. PM me if you ever just want a chat, I’m usually up all hours (as you can see by the time I posted this)

OP how are things now a month on? Hope your okay x