Ex and mantinence

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Just need to rant. So my lovely ex has just informed me that he can't pay any mantinence for the next 6 weeks until he gets paid at the end of December as he is starting a new job tomorrow. No mention of the fact he hasn't been out of work , he is going from one job straight to another so he has wages , but his excuse is he's now getting paid monthly. Although he will be paid for the next 2 weeks or so that he works at the end of this month. No warning for me or anything just sorry can't give any mantinence for 6 weeks. ( that's if I get it he isn't the most reliable ). Not as easy for mums to say if we are starting a new job that we can't provide anything at all that our children needs for weeks eh. ( not slating all guys btw some men are really great dads and great at being responsible ). Anyone else have ex's that aren't reasonable enough to give warning for these kind of things?

I do know how frustrating it is when one parent (it seems) can just decline their responsibility, but when switching jobs this is often the case, you have very little money until you eventually get paid. I've gone as long as 7 weeks before my first pay day due to the date I started and pay roll cut off date. Not sure what you want him to do if he doesn't have any money until then.

@Justwondering605 , luckily I work full time and don't need it in a desperate rush as such but it's just the principle. I am understanding with these things it's just the time of year etc it's not convenient. I think if I'd been applying for jobs for a few weeks and knew this could happen, I would have been putting extra money aside each week from my wage just incase so I at least had something to give in the meantime but suppose I will just need to get on with it and see what happens.

I understand, I do, but it's probably not that convenient for him to be without money for 6 weeks either. Even if he has been putting his spare money aside, that may be to cover his own bills/food until next pay day. He can't pay you anything if he loses his job/becomes homeless/starves (obviously being dramatic but you get the point). You know his personal finances more than I do, I'm speaking in general and not in regards to someone who earns a fortune or has savings. Luckily your children have you. It's sad for children who have one crappy parent but it's better not to rely on maintenance as regular income.

@Justwondering605 your totally right. Sometimes you just need someone else's point of view to clear things in your head and listen to another point of view. To be honest I don't know if he has savings etc. I suspect he does but couldn't say for sure. I work full time so luckily we don't struggle and I do see his mantinence as more of a principle thing. He shouldn't get away with not paying, it's his responsibility and to be honest he doesn't do anything else to help in regards to parenting etc so it's the one thing he does do ( most of the time ) . Thanks for your response x

Has he been out of work or just changed employer. If there is a gap in his employment then fair enough. If not then he would of been paid up TIL his last working day and any leave out standing.

Will he make up for the missed weeks?

Supporting the children isn't optional in my opinion. If he has been reliable previously then it is a one off. Fair enough. Otherwise I would suggest going through the cms and the process is then formal and arrears will be chased.

I realise it maybe a bit harsh but from my experience I've been chasing money for 18 months now.

All non resident parents should be supporting their children.

I'm in a similar position. Although my ex lies so much I don't know the truth. I've had nothing for 10 weeks and now I am really struggling. He's also stopped contact again. Reported non payments to the cms.

He’s going straight from one job to another. So he could get a loan to pay the maintenance, live off credit cards, use savings. Does he not have any of those options? Really? And he’s employed? I don’t believe that.

Always the same with these types, their children are the lowest on their list of priorities.

I assume this change of job hasn't come as a complete surprise? So many things he could have put in place to ensure he continued to financially support his children.

Bet he hasn't told his rent, utilities, car insurance, etc that they won't be getting any money off him for 6 weeks?

Nope, just his children who suffer unless mum steps up.

It's bullshit.
I didn't get paid for 6 weeks but still had to support the dc, maxed the last of the credit cards, borrow money which I bloody hate because children need to eat! All at the same time the dc df decided not to see them or pay support.
And unlike the NRP you have to watch your dc go without abs have the worry every bloody night.
OP rant away you deserve to

My ex doesn’t pay any maintenance at all, not a penny. Hasn’t in years.