Ex husband seemed to try to be a good dad, not involved much with any actual parenting, but had fun with our daughter. I worked nights and he worked days so spent a lot of time with her and was very much the fun dad.
He was always talking about her and posting on Facebook, backstory was that he wasn't involved much as a family man, moody and would have to have time to himself a lot. Didn't do much in the house and we had money problems due to rent increases and both on a low wage.
We drifted apart as he was cold and self absorbed and if he did do anything at all to help he would see it as needing praise and gratitude.
We had to move as our landlord wanted to sell, so I found something else and sorted it all out, it was stressful as I had to look for somewhere and make appointments often after working a night shift and then collecting daughter from school. Then going back to work as I also worked full time.
I found somewhere the best I could as we didn't have much time and needed somewhere to live but it was smaller and expensive. He blew up when I told him and refused to look at it, said it looks like a shoebox from pictures, sulking on move day and not helping at all as we had friends to help us move.
He was more sulky and withdrew after we moved in and I was busy with work and daughter, moving schools and moving in. I just stayed away from him as he's impossible to talk to, looking back I was really stressed and suffering from depression but too busy to draw breath... moving meant a further walk for me to work and a long walk to school and back. After 12 hour nights I wasn't getting much rest or sleep!
He met someone online and moved to his parents but at that point slowly stopped talking to his daughter and seeing her before moving away to live with girlfriend and her children, without telling his child he had gone.
He then just blocked her for not reason and has not been in touch with her since, she is devastated and has had lots of emotional problems and feels it must be that it's her fault!!
I just can't get my head around how a parent can suddenly do this and how they can be ok with it and seem to feel no guilt. He seemed to be a good dad from other people point of view and get away with causing so much damage without explaining to her and knowing how hurtful it must be for her!
I know it happens, but i can't understand what his self justification would be! How he can have constantly told daughter about his new family and how great they were then just drop her like that, while presumably playing a great dad to those kids!!
She also got told that she would have to accept the new family as it would be him and them and no conversations without them. Daughter just wanted to talk to him alone.
How could the new partner not see what he has done and find it normal as a parent herself!!
Sorry for the ranting about this, it's been a year since daughters dad moved out and last night she wouldn't talk as she said she dreamed about her dad then realised he want there. I just feel for her and I feel so angry!!!