7 weeks pregnant and scared

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I found out 3 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I'm not in a relationship with the father, and I haven't told him yet as I don't think he'll react well. I'm planning on telling him in the next couple of weeks, but I'm preparing for him saying he doesn't want any involvement. He's 5 years younger than me and quite immature.

I knew straight away I would keep the pregnancy - I'm 30 with a steady job and live by myself, and I do have supportive friends and family.

I've had times in the last 3 weeks when I feel happy and excited, but I keep getting a sense of dread about how much my life is going to change. I've been so ill with nausea I've been off work the past week, I'm exhausted and I miss my normal routine of going to the gym and working.

I know I will love my child but I keep picturing myself as a struggling single mum with no time for myself. I feel like I'm already losing my identity and it's getting me down so much.

I don't want to sound selfish, I appreciate many people long for children and can't have them, but I can't seem to drag myself out of feeling this way today. Did anyone else have similar thoughts when they were pregnant?

I felt so rubbish in myself in early pregnancy, hated the way i looked would hate meal time because i couldn't keep it down, but now 22 weeks its all become very real and all that worry and hating every second has turned into excitement. Being a single mum is a hard job but at least you dont have to share the love everything is on your terms but you do whats best for you

@georgia19ox Thankyou, I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way, but sorry to hear you went through the same feelings as it's horrible. Glad you're feeling excited about things now. I'm having an early scan Friday so I'm hoping that may help how I feel

OP with the greatest respect everyone loses their identity a bit when they become a mum, single or otherwise. For a while you stop being you and become X's mum but it's not forever and it gets better all the time.

You will be fine, we all feel this way as pp said single or not. Be prepared for him to do a runner though, sadly a lot of men do.