Dad does not see essential to pay for his children

[Whatshouldmynamebe321]

Boring I know...but...is there anyway I can force my ex to contribute financially???

We have 50/50 care of our 4 children - so child maintenance consider he pays for them in his house and that's that.

I used to receive tax credits and therefore didnt mind being the one who paid for everything. Ex used to contribute towards big spends until he got the sack two years ago.

For the last two years he has contributed nothing.

I am writing a spreadsheet of expenses and a letter to him to state two years I have patiently waited and it is no longer acceptable for me to pay everything. I know he will just read this angrily and ignore it. I know finances should be a separate issue to child arrangements...but seriously why should he have the joy of our children without the costs???

To make this argument harder the reason I no longer receive tax credits or benefit is because my partner lives with me and our combined earnings are too high. So in my exes narcissistic view....we earn loads and dont need his help. My partner has 3 children of his own he pays for and shouldn't (but is) supporting my family now.

My ex is fit and capable of work...just unable to keep a job due to his temper. He lives for free off his poor dad.

Help?! Any wise words?

Have you check what you are due on the CMS calculator? Fairly easy to do and then put in a claim.

Your DP is not responsilbe for your children, your Ex is.

If he has no income apart from benefits there is no way to enforce any payments, as unfair as that is.

There is no maintenance due as we have a 50/50 split.

But this doesnt support there are still expenditures that I foot and he doesnt.