Just wanted to share my story, offload my sadness a little.
15 months ago when my LB was only 12 weeks old my Husband of one year (together for 7) walked out and left us for a woman he started kissing at work two weeks beforehand.
Before this he was a wonderful man, adored me, said he loved our life, my soulmate.
I had quite a traumatic birth and a difficult time after birth. When I found out he had kissed her my world collapsed, I was already dealing with so many emotions being a first time Mum and finding it all very overwhelming breastfeeding etc.
He said he was going to sort his head out on the Friday and his friends and actually slept with that vile woman and never came back. The following week renting a house with her. Walked out on his Wife, newborn Son, two dogs, our friends and families, the home he built and never looked back. Didn’t bat an eyelid.
At first I thought he would see sense and come home. He never. He’s still with her.
I’ve always allowed contact with our Son but under my roof.
What’s also strange is I basically had a breakdown in front of him. Cried everyday for 8 months solid whilst holding our home and family together and not once had he shown and empathy, remorse towards me. If anything I irritate him. Said he hasn’t been happy for ages that’s why he did it, we had only just got married and had a child. There’s nothing to suggest this. If that was true you would talk about it and at least try wouldn’t you?!
So 15 months on I’m in a much better place but still can’t move on from it or get over how he could hurt me and not care. Not care how I’d would cope at the most vulnerable time in my life. How it would affect me and our baby.