What's your child custody arrangement ?

[Moominfan]

Currently

Week one Friday 5pm drop off Sunday 5pm return

Week two Saturday collected 9am Saturday 5pm drop off

I feel like I'm pulling all the weight during the week. I've asked ex about during week and he just says no I work. Child is two going on three.

Is your partner able to be flexible I.e help out when able? Not everyone's employer allows them to commit to a regular agreed time due to level of responsibility and accountability in certain jobs being on call etc but can he agree that where able he can sometimes do week days after work? I'm guessing there are financial considerations for you if he works less hours too.......

Ours is Sat morning until Sun morning every week, then Tuesday from school until bed time (about 3 and a half hours) when his dad is available, I just get him Tuesdays when he's not. Honestly I prefer the weeks he's unavailable after school, ds is less tired and we can spread the homework out over more nights and actually have a play together or relax, instead of having one night that feels like it's devoted to reading/spellings/ times tables.

He's self employed so can choose his own working hours and pays slightly above the minimum required if I went via css

So you get two Sunday's with your child and that's it?

That's not fair. I'd be aiming for you both having a full weekend each and dad having him an one school night every week.

I do think one weekend a week is fair .

My arrangement is I do it all 🙄

Ours is every Thursday night at dads and the n every other week Thursday - Monday am at dads

Dad collects 10am Saturday and returns 7pm Sunday. Once a month.

I do it all, his dad takes him out for tea probably once every 2 months

Friday afternoon - Monday morning every other weekend.

I found every other weekend and one evening (Wednesday) every week worked well.

How it is with you, you don’t have a chance to go away for a weekend or away with dc any weekend.

I'm at college two days during the week and weekends when he's at his dads. So I do get plenty of time with him. Just would like to do the fun weekend stuff sometimes

I have a 2 year old. Our arrangement is Week one: Friday 5pm til Saturday 1pm
Week two: Friday 5pm til Sunday 6pm
Plus every Wednesday 4pm-6.30pm

This is court ordered contact and will remain this way until ds starts school which is when he turns 5. Then the arrangements will change and his dad will be entitled to half of all school holidays, the court also told me that once ds is in school it will most likely change to alternate weekends as they say it is unfair for one parent to have all of the fun time on a weekend while the resident parent gets all the school runs midweek etc and no down time on a weekend which I totally agree with. I assume something extra will be given midweek once the alternate weekends happen.

No parent should have every single weekend that is completely unfair.

50:50
Starting on a Monday
Week 1 - D D M M D D D
Week 2 - D D M M M M M
We each get a long weekend on/off alternate weeks, we can plan meetings/social things for the same day each week, child gets same person collecting from after school events each week. Works well for us and child.