Single mum rant

[TwinkleMerrick]

My dd has had impetigo and been off nursery all week. Grandparents have helped out so I haven't missed any work. I messaged dad......not heard a thing from him.......not even a text to see how she is. Normally I get in touch with him to organise him seeing DD every Sunday, but this week I just can't face him. I've been up most nights with dd and then done all day at work, I need the weekend to re-charge. Last thing I want is to deal with seeing him. So I think I've finally reached my limit, no more chasing him and bending backwards to make sure he has a relationship with DD. If he asks of course I will let him see her, but I'm done!

I'm just so thankful I have my parents to help out, I know a lot of single mums have no help at all. Grandad is more of a father to my dd than her own dad. Thank god for grandparents!

Anyway, rant done! Off to eat my weight in chocolate

That must be so exhausting. He's just shit. You are right to stop pushing yourself for him. You've got so much on already I don't know how you've got any energy to give anything more on behalf of him.

All of the chocolate.

He sounds like a total shit. Well done you for being such a fab mum

Thanks, sometimes you just need to hear other mums have your back xxx

It's frustrating hearing about all these fathers who won't be there for their children whilst there are also so many fathers who want nothing more than to be there for their children.

For what it's worth, you're doing the right thing. Fingers crossed he gets his act together so that he can have a good relationship with your daughter. For her benefit as much as his (if not more so).

Have some gin with that chocolate

You're doing an awesome job OP, and are totally allowed to rant. I also agree - thank god for grandparents! (and chocolate and wine)

I know how you feel, my dcs dad hasn’t seen them in 2 years. Some men are just shit

@PumpkinP that's terrible. How do your dc's deal with it? I worry about how all this will affect my dd. I'm trying my best to be positive and be a strong independent female role model, but I still worry xx

Your dd will grow up to be a strong and independent young lady. My dad was in and out of my life. My mother provided me with the love. Stability and security I needed.

You do not need to be the one running around 'making' him parent. I would send one message to say that he is welcome to arrange contact but you won't be chasing him.