Help induction in 6 weeks and no one to watch older kids.

[Mynameishuman]

Hi everyone I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant with baby 3 and have no family or friend support at all, like no one at all. I have two older kids who are 6 and 2 and I'm trying to nagivate how to arrange emergency Foster for when I go into labour, I've been told my children aren't able to go into respite as we have never been involved with SS before and emergency Foster care is likely my only option but they have told me they may have to split my kids up which breaks my heart.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?!?!

Safe families is really good op,whereabouts are you in the country?

You've got a few weeks until then, could you not save the money for childcare up?

I'm sorry I snapped at you smile just I'm on another thread to and have had a few nasty comments, I just thought it was someone else being judgemental. I apologise completely

It is because we are just new to this area we've only known the school mums two months and they have been great, incredibly friendly and welcoming but they have there own kids and jobs and they just don't feel comfortable doing it even though I've explained the situation.

That's fine I appreciate it is a stressful situation and it's probably 10x worse given you have just moved to a new area. Do you have any friends from your old area you could possibly invite to stay at your home to look after them?

Nah we have lost contact with them all, plus they wouldn't travel here to watch them and I couldn't expect them to either. I honestly wish we had someone

Have you posted the job on childcare.com? If so, what were the quotes like?

I can relate to your situation and it must be so stressful for you. I'm only 10 weeks but will also be induced at 38weeks as I need 4 hours of iv antibiotics and then me and baby have to stay in hospital for 7days while baby gets antibiotics twice every 24 hours. Baby's dd will be looking after dd and I will have no birth partner but that's the situation. I hope you find a solution you're happy with. Some people don't understand no one means no one.

I think your situation is unusual but not too hard to belive this could easily happen. As obviously its happened to you. So I don't know why people are finding it so hard to grasp re family. I'd also assume that this circumstance isn't your ideal preference so again perhaps posters should be a bit less judgemental.

I'm so sorry about what happened with your ex. I'm sure you are making the right Decisions to keep your family safe. Home start are a good charity, not sure if they can help re the birth but do help families without much other help, so might be a good option for ongoing support.

That sounds so scary @becauseltlz thankfully your dd's dad can watch her. I can understand why people find it difficult to understand how people can genuinely have no one as they couldn't even imagine it which shows that they are lucky enough not to worry about it, but sadly it does happen there are some who are genuinely alone in the world which is utterly terrifying for us.

What about looking for a Facebook group for local mums/parents/NCT group and explaining the situation and asking if anyone can help. You could suggest repaying with future babysitting. Or you could find the nearest college that teaches Childcare and ask if any students could help out, since they will all be CRB checked. Have you tried asking local nursery staff?

Where about sin the country are you, maybe one of us will know of a local service or charity that could support.

Are you having a birth partner or are you going to birth alone? If you had someone to come with you to give birth could they help with the kids instead? This is so so difficult for you. I'm really sorry you are so isolated
Where are you based? Can you maybe have a section instead so you can be in and out in a more planned time frame

I'm not happy about it but at least my dd is with someone she knows. She will be 20months when baby is born. I'm going to miss her terribly. I've never left her or been away from her for more than an hour before I'm worried she will think I've abandoned her.

I really wish I had the answer for you, it's a nightmare. I hope you have a speedy induction and can be in and out.

Dont know if itll help but have you applied for the best start grant and early learning payment? That'll give you a couple hundred pounds to put to a child minder or babysitter? Was just a random thought

After your update, just a bit worried about you and the children after the birth, what if you have to have a caesarean and can't lift anything or drive? How will you get to any medical appointments? Just thinking about the hearing screen we had to go back into hospital for. Have you got anyone able to help you at home? Maybe contact the charities / home start etc for help after the birth as well as during.

I would happily travel to you to help you out for a week or whatever you need. Hopefully you will be able to sort something but if not my offer is genuine.

Dont know if itll help but have you applied for the best start grant and early learning payment? That'll give you a couple hundred pounds to put to a child minder or babysitter? Was just a random thought
Unfortunately that’s only in Scotland, hopefully that’s where the op lives.

Ah I didnt know that sorry.

OP you've been asked at least half a dozen times where you are. If you genuinely need help then why not say where you are and people can make suggestions?