What is reasonable contact for 1 year old after an abusive relationship?

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I left my husband a month ago due to his abusive and controlling behaviour. The police were called out to our house shortly before I left.
I am concerned that he has mental health problems that he won’t seek treatment for. He is very paranoid and has rages and sulks.
I have spoken to a solicitor who advised not to let him have unsupervised contact. I let him come and see our son at a relatives house every weekend.
He phoned me up last night and was really angry saying he should have shared care. I am now really worried that he will take me to court. The main reason I left was because I was frightened of him and he shouted at our baby.
I have moved far away from him. Would the court order me to move back so that we can have shared care? What would be the best arrangement for our little boy in these circumstances? I know that he needs to know his dad but I don’t feel happy about him spending time with his dad unsupervised. My lawyer says that if he takes me to court I can ask for him to have a mental health assessment. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Another thing that might be relevant is that DS is still breastfed. He feeds to sleep and if he wakes up in the night. His Dad has a medical condition which means it is hard for him to wake up so he never did any of the night wakings.

I don’t know the answer but I touched on this the other day on a thread. This is the thing. Women so often leave not because the husband was abusive to them, but because he can be a bastard to the children, or wants the mother to be complicit in a level of ‘discipline’ she recognises as abusive. And then when she leaves, the general consensus is just because he’s a bad husband ... he should still see his kids. Regardless of anything. It’s fucking shit op and you have my sympathies.

This was exactly my situation. The idea of discipline doesn’t really apply to a tiny baby but he told him he was naughty for throwing his toys on the floor. He didn’t want him to walk around the house. Didn’t want him to sleep in our room but wouldn’t help with night wakings. He would spend all day in bed sulking while I looked after the baby and did the housework. He has had him on his own for a few hours at a time when we were together but he has never cared for him at night.