How to explain domestic abuse

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My children are 4 and 3 and haven't seen their dad since January 2017. There is a PSO, no direct or indirect contact and a high level of domestic violence.

My 4 year old has just started asking questions about where her dad is, and more importantly where her sister is.

Is there any resources that might help?

How do I explain? I don't want to lie and make him into someone she hopes will be back etc but I don't want her to know a grim back story. I'm trying to find a very age appropriate explanation I guess.

Help

Where is the sister?

I wouldn’t lie as I hate when people say daddy is ill or similar in these situations. Children then Build them up in their head and idolise the missing parent. I’m a big believer in telling children the truth. However 4 is obviously too young to go into detail. I’m not sure how exactly I would word it though as my ex is absent through his own choice so different scenario hopefully someone else has some advice.

Woman's Aid have counsellors specifically for children. Maybe ask them for advice?

Sister is older half sister. I have been told there is a younger half sister on the way too 🤦‍♀️my dd was very close to the big sister.

I don't want to give false hope of him returning or getting better :(

Will speak to women's aid