Ex allows daughters boyfriend to sleep over

[Guest1233]

So my ex keeps allowing my 15 year old daughter to have her boyfriend sleep over hes 16.

They have already had sex which is obviously what worries me. We also had our first child young, which is probably another reason why I think they shouldn't be sharing a bed together.

Me and my daughters boyfriend parents do not want them sleeping over together. But I ex allows it.

Am I being over the top asking him to not allow it?

I'd wonder why the boyfriend's parents let it happen if they're not happy about it... You should challenge parental decisions you're not happy about I think, but that should come second to talking to DD about repercussions and ensuring she's reliable with birth control- am sure you've already done this- but realistically if they want to have sex and ex says no to sleepovers at his, that won't stop the sex. You just won't know about it

Im not sure you can do anything to stop this. I would make sure your DD has good contraception if you can broach it with her.

Also, even if she the two were not allowed to sleep over anywhere they would probably still be having sex.

I appreciate that staying over sort of condones a sexual relationship but they are just as likely to have sex during daylight hours. Perhaps your ex wants them to be safe and comfortable rather than doing it in the park or wherever teens go. Trying to restrict her at this age will likely just frustrate her and push her closer to her boyfriend. Instead I would make sure she has good relationship and sexual health advice, access to contraception, an open channel of communication with you and your ex, and that you encourage other activities away from bf that promote her self esteem.

Since that horse is out the barn, I'm with your ex. When your dd is with him, he knows where she is and that she's safe.
As a mother, I'd take her to the GP and support her sorting out birth control.