Sit tight folks this is going to be a long one but I need to provide the back story.
So I was in a dv relationship for 6 years from which I have 2 amazing daughters.
I relocated to get away and I have had nothing hurt problems since, I left my job where I was a deputy manager and a designated safeguarding officer so I have a lot of knowledge when it comes to children.
Fast forward to now my health visitor is horrendous, my child was suspected to have craniosynostis and I was new to my area so initiated contact with the health visitor, ever since I have been harassed and felt my parenting is scrutinised to the point I feel bullied.
My health visitor had a visit booked one day i had had an awful night with baby teething and full of a cold and felt under the weather myself so I message hv to cancel and told I wasn't well.
She turned up anyway and I said I did send you a message to cancel, she was nice as pie and said no problem
2 weeks after I received a knock on the door unfortunately I was in the toilet and my partner answered the door, it was 2 health visitors who I'd never met. Gave my partner the 3rd degree who are you etc we are here to do a welfare visit. I was mortified, they said no one has seen me so they were worried. The same week I had been to the hospital and the doctors about my daughters head the surgery which I may add is where the health visitor is based and will have had knowledge of this. I'd been to the park with the children been to a playgroup and to see my partner. So the information was inaccurate I also stated if it was my usual health visitor she would of known full well who my partner was. I phoned to complain that the visit wasn't warrented and the terms welfare check were offensive, my children aren't subject to any orders or social services involememt, long story short I told them I no longer require the services except the legalised development checks. She tried to argue with me it's compulsory for me to see her which I said no I'm a juraery nurse I know full well that's not the case.
I've not heard a thing since.
Yesterday I had a phone call from the police to do with ingoing proceedings against the children's father. I left the room to take the call as I couldn't hear over my children, in that time my daughter had climbed up the windowsill and fell off.
She was perfectly fine just had a little red mark on her head.
She ate her tea had a bath and was perfectly fine, her bedtime was nearing and I called the doctors to ask if I was on to let her go to sleep after a bump, instead of advising me that that was on which they should of they told me to take her to a and e. I never go to a and e less absolutely needed, the. An hour later I got a phone call from the doctors checking I had taken her and threatened me that is I didn't I wasn't safeguarding her. As a mother I thought well it's dark and freezing cold and she's already poorly with a cold so the sensible thing would be to keep her home if they told me what to look out for and any of that happened of course I'd take her straight away. The receptionist in a and e said it's ridiculous she was fine and they were trying to intimidate me. She made me aware if they have a hospital admission a form gets sent to the health visitor, so now I know they were bullying me as that would allow them to visit again etc.
I feel as though they are making me appear as a neurotic mother, I knew my daughter was fine and had to turn up to a and e because they threatened me. I think it's being done in an attempt for the health visitor to use against my metal health.
Today I've noticed my daughter has a lump in her neck and it's not tiny either so of course I want to take her to the doctor's first thing bg tomorrow but I'm terrified now what will come of it. What do I do? Someone help please