Help on how to split costs when one partner earns 6 figures

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Hi
My ex earns in excess of £100k per year and I earn £21,000 as I work part time.

He pays regularly via CMS (£430 per month due to the contact arrangement we have in place) home but insists on splitting anything else 50/50.

Am I being unreasonable to ask him to pay a larger proportion of school trips given his income?

He refuses to pay anything for school uniform and school shoes saying it should come out of the maintenance.

Can anyone in a similar situation tell me how you split your costs? All the people I speak to say that if he is the biggest earner, he should really pay a bit more but he flatly refuses.

He was financially controlling when we were together and hated giving me money for anything so nothing has changed. I just don’t know if there is anything I can do about it, like going through the courts or anything?

He is already on the highest CMS bracket. I work really hard for what I earn and worry about every penny having no money spare. The cms letter says he earns £1,800 a WEEK! Yet pays £102 per week.

He is currently taking me to court for 50/50 access, which I’m pretty sure he’s only doing so he can stop paying any maintenance at all.

Any ideas anyone? Or can you tell me what you think is reasonable?

How many children is that for? What is the contact arrangement?

Well legally he doesn’t have to pay anything above cms minimum.

Tbh I would stop antagonising him for money .

£442 a month for one child is a lot of money.

The child has 2 parents and you both should contribute. The child’s on school - can you increase your earnings? It’s not upto the NRP to fund everything.

For one child that's alot of money I get £140 for ds.

It's really unhelpful for people to say stuff like "can't believe you are asking for a tenner when I don't even get 1p"

The man is on a six figure sum!

What costs does he pay 50% of?

I agree about the 1p however as I assume he is already paying his legal minimum for someone who is financially abusive . He will very much enjoy op asking for money so he can say no.

Wow he sounds like a complete jerk to me - if he earns that much money he should want yours and his child’s life to be comfortable all the time.

But if she doesn't ask for extra's when he obviously can afford it he's winning by not having to pay for anything and in the future, the child will also learn not to expect anything l write all this from personal experience.
Just recently my adult child told me that this parent who didn't want to spend anything more than required by law is leaving only a small sum on death with the majority going to his other children.
Once a tight ass always a tight ass.

Some men are vile . Some parents care more about money than supporting their child .

In this case he isn’t going to pay regardless

Like pikapikachu I would like to know what he pays the additional 50% of everything of.

I get £120 for one child and we split the costs of everything else pretty much.

He's not saying a straight out "no" to additional money, just that he'll only pay half of certain things. I would not be asking for anything extra towards school shoes in these circumstances. £430 a month is a good amount for one parent to contribute, as well as having overnights, and paying 50% of whatever the additional costs are. Kids don't need new school shoes or trips every month.