Feel like I can't cope

[mrssoap]

Sometimes I really feel out of my depth.
I have 4 children, aged between 9 and 11 months. One of them has behaviour problems, I'm waiting to have her assessed for adhd but that's another story I feel like I'm getting nowhere!

Tonight the middle 2 have just been constant fighting and arguing, then the 5 year old (with suspected adhd) is so loud she always wakes her baby brother 😟. So I'm left with her big mouth shouting and destroying the house, a screaming baby and a 9 year old and 6 year old that seriously don't get enough of my attention. The 6 year old is a handful but just normal cheeky boy stuff nothing too bad, it's him and the 5 year old together that make things so so hard.

Their dad is an absolute waste of space he rarely has them, doesn't even pay for them.

I love my kids I really do but I have no life accept being a mum, I'm nothing else. My friends don't even ask me to come out anymore because they know I can't. Babysitters are not an option because of my 5 year old. My mum won't look after all 4 (mainly cos of the 5 year old!) and I have literally no1 else whatsoever.

I'm in contact with parent support and school and my local health worker so I'm getting to talk to people about things, I'm just so stressed out all the time, no time for myself and it's 8pm right now, I'm sat holding the baby I haven't eaten since breakfast I'm hungry and just drained.

No idea what the point of posting this was, probably just to rant so thanks for reading if you have got this far it's mainly just me rambling!!!

I'll get through it.. like I always do somehow.
I hope things get easier soon 😔

No advice just a hand hold and 💐. You sound like an amazing mum OP

Reading your post makes me sad, I wish I could help you, you sound a great mum, very strong and capable, I can only imagine how hard it all is

Sounds so hard but you have managed to get through another day and got your children through it too. You said you haven't eaten since breakfast. Have you got food in the house? Go and make yourself something to eat. Everyone else can wait for a bit.

I do have food in the house, I just haven't had chance as 5 year old takes up all my attention, she's very demanding, then she woke the baby so I was sat there with him trying to cuddle him back to sleep and just posted here to let off steam. I've put him down now and managed to have some pasta but now 5 year old is up and having a massive meltdown 😔. She doesn't sleep much, she normally is awake till about midnight then again in the night as she wets the bed, takes me ages to get her to go back to bed, then she's up at the crack of dawn.

She does go to school (is mostly late because she refuses to get ready) so in the day it's just me and the baby which is where I get some peace, but every other hour of the day is constant trying to deal with her, just so drained.

I'm not surprised you're drained. You can't be getting much sleep either. It's torture when they wake you up all the time. I remember it well with my daughter. She used to wake up a lot in the night until she was 5. Hopefully the school and parent support can help.

Thank you all for the supportive messages it means a lot and has helped me stay sane this evening!