Appropriate taking 2 year old funeral

[Rosiebean17]

My ex mil wants to take my 2 years 2 month old to her great grandads funeral.
I don't feel like it is appropriate given her age but what are others opinions on this?

We took our DD to most family funerals.When she was little she didn't know what was going on but cheered others up.As she got older she liked to do the formal goodbye and also liked the big family parties after and the stories people tell about the dead.
And somehow the solemnity of the occasions mean that she stayed quiet even when very small.

She won't know what's going on, so it won't affect her but, she's your child, so it's up to you.

I wouldn't. Focus should be on the deceased. Even a little babbling or chatter can distract from the service and eulogies.

I have a very ill family member and a 2 year old and was discussing this with my dh the other day.

I personally wouldn't. Not just because it might be disruptive but more because I think it would upset her to see other members of her family crying and would confuse her.

I'm sure she would he a lovely distraction at a wake but an actual funeral would be too much imo

Why on earth does she want to do that?
Will your ex be attending the funeral?
I can't understand why you would take a young child to a funeral unless it is their immediate relative or the parents of the child want to attend and can't get childcare.

It’s probably the worst age for a funeral because she’s unlikely to manage being still and quiet. If you were going, both to take action if she is disruptive at the service and also to protect her from anything upsetting, then it’s something you could consider, if it’s important enough to you. Is your ex MIL wanting to take her without you? Can you trust her to do those two things?

Your child your choice , although what is ex saying?

I wouldn't let 2 year old go. I would allow child to go to after ceremony meal. During ceremony child will see others upset and may be disruptive

Her great grandfather.... so presumably (and hopefully) very aged?

You MIL’s father?

Your daughter will likely be bored. However i wouldn’t dig my heels in personally. Why? The funeral isn’t a tragic sad loss - it’s to mark the end of a long life AND the MIL is very close relative so I’d do it for her (presuming relationship ok with her but in guessing not if you’re posting about her on mumsnet)