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Feel like such a fool

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Mumanon72 · 18/08/2019 21:37

I’ve just had a baby and the Dad abandoned me during my pregnancy but towards the end of the pregnancy he got in contact and said he wanted to be involved. He was involved for a few weeks, always visiting, he seemed so inlove with our baby, kept begging for me back sweet talking me I said I’d see how things went. Then all of a sudden he ghosted the relationship. He hasn’t seen our baby for almost a month. He messaged Friday asking if he could take her overnight and I said no because she has colic, reflux and constipation and I don’t want overnight visits until she is older and he proves himself consistent. He had ago at me then dropped it and has continued to message asking how she is and I have responded to those messages.

I know we deserve better and it’s probably for the best but I can’t help but feel hurt, betrayed, abandoned and humiliated all over again. He text me out of the blue last time dumping me but this seems just so much worst and so cruel, especially after he was begging me back and we have a child together. After working through all of the forgiveness, beginning to let my guard down etc again...it is just such a horrible feeling. I want answers. I want to scream and shout at him. But it’s not worth wasting my time.
I’m so sad my baby will grow up without a mum and dad living together and it didn’t work out.
Trying to keep myself busy with the baby and not have too much of a pity party but how can people just treat others this way? It is so cruel.

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PumpkinP · 18/08/2019 21:51

Had the same with my ex so I feel your pain. He didn’t see our 4 children for 2 years then contacted me begging to see them, foolishly j allowed it, he seen them once and has gone again! (It’s been 2 months) so men are just awful, and they never change trust me when I say that he will never change sadly.

redastherose · 18/08/2019 21:55

You're not a fool, he's a waste of space and you'd be better off minimising contact as much as you can.

It sounds like he's keeping you dangling and loves the attention and his ability to drop you and pick you up.

Mumanon72 · 19/08/2019 20:56

Thanks, you are right..just a hard pill to swallow at the moment.

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PumpkinP · 19/08/2019 21:24

It will be, it’s still early days. Just take it one step at a time. Flowers

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