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Gave birth 4 days ago and my partner and I have just broke up

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beexx · 18/08/2019 16:27

So I gave birth in the early hours of Wednesday morning then on Friday (I think) we broke up. My days have all blurred into one. There's no way of resolving our issues and I'm absolutely heartbroken. We already have a 14 month old son as well. All that aside, I just need some advice on where I stand financially. We currently live in a rented house which me and my ex pay half the bills for. I'll be moving out with the boys next week and staying with my Nan temporarily until I find a place. Will private landlords be likely to accept me? I know I'm on maternity leave but will they take into account the fact that I'm a nurse? Because obviously I'll be receiving benefits too, which leads me to another question; how soon can I apply for universal credit? Can I apply now even though I don't technically have a place to live yet? Do I have to have found a place to live so I know the rent amount before I apply?

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Windygate · 18/08/2019 16:33

Before you leave your rented home who is on the lease and how much notice do you have to give? Don't just leave, you risk making yourself intentionally homeless and possibly still being liable for rent etc. You can claim for benefits straight away.
It would be really worth your time to speak to Citizens Advice. Sorry your going through such a horrible time

lunar1 · 18/08/2019 16:49

Really sorry you are going through this. I would get the ball rolling with cms straight away. I would also be wary about just leaving your rented home without all the information. Is there a reason it's you and your children leaving and not him?

31RueCambon · 18/08/2019 17:00

He should be the one to go! You have a baby and a toddler!

beexx · 18/08/2019 17:18

Thank you for your reply guys.
Me and my partner are on the lease and we have a rolling contract. I'm going to contact our landlord and tell them to remove my name from the lease, as far as I know my ex is staying.
I know everyone is saying he should be the one to go - which is true but I have absolutely nobody here. All my family live an hour away so I intend to move back closer to them

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Nat6999 · 18/08/2019 19:04

Don't leave your home, you will be treated as being intentionally homeless. Contact the council where you want to move to, you have local connections, get yourself on the waiting lists for council & housing association properties. Ask your ex to provide you with a letter saying that you can't stay & a letter from your nan that you are basically sofa surfing & need a place to live in.

Windygate · 18/08/2019 19:24

NO NO. Don't leave until you've taken advice. Speak to your midwife tomorrow.

PuffHuffle5 · 18/08/2019 19:27

Why are you the one moving out? You’ve just given birth, this is insane. As PP said, speak to your midwife who can hopefully point you in the right direction for advice.

Chickenish · 19/08/2019 23:04

Are you safe? If you are the one leaving I’m worried about you. The council can be really helpful.

squee123 · 19/08/2019 23:08

it's not about the morals of who should leave, it's about whether you will be classed as being intentionally homeless and therefore denied council assistance if you leave. You may well struggle to get a private landlord to accept you without a guarantor, so please be very careful not to scupper your chances of council accomodation. Please speak to Citizens Advice before you do anything.

I'm so sorry you're going through this at such a vulnerable time.

blubelle7 · 19/08/2019 23:56

Don't leave, claim benefits immediately. Do not leave, 99% of landlords will not accept a single mother on maternity leave (despite it being illegal), they will not care you are a nurse. Contact your council and tell them you are at risk of being made homeless as you cannot afford the rent on your own. They will sort out what you are entitled to. Please do not move out, your situation will become infinitely worse especially if you do not have a guarantor

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