Hi all. Need some advice as I believe I'm doing the right but you know when someone messes with your head so much that you doubt yourself??? Basically I have a 4 yr old son with my husband. Sometimes he says to our son he's not his daddy. I've told him to stop as it's damaging our son but he won't listen. Recently our son told him to stop and he has. Now he has started calling him fat and obese. I've told hubby I won't stand for it and our son is not fat (he's still got his baby fat & altho is 4 wears clothes for an 8 yr old). I've told hubby if he was obese, the nursery would have raised it with us or the gp when I tale him for his regular jabs. Another issue is hubby refuses to help with housework. He says our son and I make a mess so we should clean it. The only mess is what you'd expect from a 4 yr old in terms of toys. I've suggested counselling but he says only if I pay for all the sessions as it's my idea to go (I did this last time 5 yrs ago and paid for a year of sessions). At my wits end I asked him to help around house last nite and he said from now he will do his own washing, cooking, ironing so I don't need to clean up after him!! I suggested we take a break for a few days from each other and he's now said if he leaves it's for good. I've also said he can see our son whenever he wants and he said 'it's your son and he'll soon forget about me'.
I know his mum is behind it all as he changes when he's been to see her. Am I being unreasonable in asking him to go? The house is in my name anyway. Thanks x