Did you go back to your maiden name while your DC kept their fathers name?

[Cromptoncrazy]

I am wondering about going back to my maiden name, I’m not really even sure why other than that DH was very difficult when we were together and I feel pretty scarred by it all.

The DC would keep his name which could be a bit of a pain when it comes to school and things.

I just wondered if anyone else changed back and why? and did it make a difference to how you felt.

I changed back. No issues with school kids or holidays etc.

No I haven't. I'd like to keep the same name as my children until they're old enough to change their name themselves if they'd like to.

This is why I’ve always kept my own name and would advise others to! Also my kids have my name, I would’ve gone for a double barrel if dh was t happy but he said they’re chavvy.

I kept my maiden name after I married but now divorced wish my DC had the surname as me. No issue with school but UK customs ask for birth certificates every time we arrive back from hols. Hate the fact I have to prove the children are mine! Whereas ex doesn't have the problem because of his name.

It won’t cause issues with the school. Not sure why you think it would? It’s common for children to have their fathers name and not the mothers in this country.

I've been separated 4 years and went back to my maiden name as soon as I could. I couldn't bear to have my POS ex's name. I wish I'd insisted on double barrelled when we were married but it's too late now. Never had any problems because we've got different surnames.

I’ve kept it as I want the same name as the kids and don’t want the hassle while travelling. I feel ok about it tbh. My marriage was a big part of my life and the children are his, we share a name, we don’t share anything else anymore, it is what it is.

Interesting comments, thanks. I’m not sure what I’ll do. It’s probably the least of my worries right now though. Partly I think it’s on my mind because I’ve never really liked the name particularly and I’m looking for a fresh start.

I've kept my ex's name because of our son. For me it was a principle thing. He refuses to let me change our sons name so I'll keep his. I want that connection to my sons name and if my ex doesn't like me keeping it he can sign the deed poll to let me change DS.

Only issue I've got is I'm having another baby (not with my ex), so I'll now have to double barrel my surname to be connected to that baby's name too. It's a nightmare.