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Anonunimer · 04/08/2019 04:20

So my friend has a son with his ex (H) and a baby with another ex(R) .
So he's been paying 250 pm to his H when him and R were together. Now he's split with R his H still wants 250 pm and R also wants 250 pm. Through csa the overall working out is 83 pw for both children so that's 41.50 pw to each parent. So that's 166 pm to each mum. On both claims he is down as only seeing the children 1 day a week but the contact is at least 1 day a week. (for example for the last 4 weeks he has seen H's son 3 over nights, 2 over nights, full week and then 2 over nights.) For both children it is like this. He will have H's child at least 3 days (2 overnight) then the rest of the week the child is with my friends parents. He's never questioned the payments and has payed on time every time.
So for H it also says he owes areers and no matter how many times he sends in the bank statements showing he's paid the areers never go down. So now on top of maintenance he's paying areers.
So my question is can he appeal the circumstances as H's child is never at hers he is either with dad or his parents? In their booklet it says they take into account how many nights and take that percentage off the maintenance but it's done nothing for the calculations.
He doesn't mind paying support but I feel its wrong amount especially if the child is never at home to have that money spent on them. Plus he's going skint having to pay maintenance to the mum then provide for the child 7 days a week (he buys everything for his parents house too)
With R its a family based agreement and they do a daily rate then each week work out how many days dad has the child and them does daily amount times the amount of days he doesn't have him. So it's a nicer fairer system that side.

TIA

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eve34 · 04/08/2019 06:52

Cms is a minimum amount to pay.

If he doesn't feel the amount is right/ fair he should pay through the cms. Calculating the number of over nights over the year and come up with an average.

I'm sure like all parent we are all skint. Part of the course.

Gingerkittykat · 04/08/2019 07:09

He would get a reduction of 1/7 for every night per week the child was with him, based on an average. The nights with his parents don't count.

If the child spends so little time with his mother has he considered applying for custody?

Anonunimer · 04/08/2019 08:10

I get that parents go skint it's just the maintenance should be spent on the child instead of the mum.
He applied for custody and cause he said he'd still allow mum contact as and when she wanted it was denied. Claiming that there was no wrong so should stay as it is.

OP posts:
Lovemenorca · 04/08/2019 08:12

my friend Grin

Anonunimer · 04/08/2019 23:32

Yes friend its a strange concept that people can be friends now a days

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HughGrantsHair · 05/08/2019 18:03

I don't understand your question OP. You say the father doesn't mind paying the maintenance but "you" feel it's unfair. Well it's not you paying it, so what's the issue?

Angrybird123 · 06/08/2019 07:22

Please don't go down the route of 'it should be spent on the child'. The maintenance my ex pays goes into my account and tops up the balance that is there because of my salary. The account is used for all my outgoings.. I don't ring fence separate pots of money, it's unworkable. Do I put the groceries through on two transactions, theirs and mine? Do I work out the increase in utilities as they live with me and do a separate DD for that? If I buy new shoes for myself from that account, whose money is it? If he is having them more for overnights than the CMS calculated rate then redo the calculation but do remember it is a MINIMUM.

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