How to better myself

[queenjolo29]

How can I better myself when I don't have any ambition???
Bit of back ground I'm a single mum to 3 children. My eldest whos dad has never had contact. My two youngest girls, dad and me slipt for good 6months ago, he's your usual only shows up when his skint type prefers to spend his days sitting in a pub.
I've only ever dreamed of being a mum. I've never had any ambition work wise always said I'll be fine working anywhere cleaner in a shop etc. Now being split with the girls dad is making me realise I'm going to need more than a cleaning job to get by. I don't mind doing college courses or free training etc I just don't no where to start or what to start looking at. I will have no help at all so no one to rely on if I can't go to college or work. I just wanna better my life for me and my children we are in such a rut and I need to start making a life for my family. Anyone else like this??

What kind of job would you say suits you?
I know I can’t work with numbers/money, I am abysmal at it.

I have no idea what to suggest. I would say become a nurse, but that’s financially crippling these days, having to pay for tuition.

How about training on the job? Like accountancy, maybe?

A good place to start would be this book What Colour Is Your Parachute?

It really depends on where you’re starting from - highest exam level, whether you’re in an area with useful education and training options, what you think you’d like to do (after reading the book).

What are you good at? What do you enjoy?

I did an Access Science course and a Biochemistry degree single with 3DC in tow. Now doing a PhD.

It fucking wrecks me at times, it’s beyond exhausting and I’ve cried with frustration many times.

The trick, I think, is to do something you really, really love. I was always a science nerd but fell into an abusive marriage before I was 20 and so it never happened. But after I finally left him, I decided to change EVERYTHING.

I think studying anything health related Tuition fees are back to being free. So start by looking at jobs in the Nhs and see what you think you would enjoy.

First try some self help books to see if your self esteem could do with a boost, and to give ideas for the future. A life coach would be useful but are expensive. Also getting fitter would help your confidence. Just making time for that would be a start.
Training to be a childminder would be an income but it needs self discipline and organisation nowadays. NHS isn't that well paid. Book keeping, accountancy, becoming up to date with computer software is a start.

If you always wanted to be just mum, maybe try to look into working childminder, babysitter, nurseries?

Perhaps looking after three children as a lone parent will be quite enough child-centred time for the OP?

Perhaps she’ll come to realise that she has actually always wanted to be an architect. Or has missed out on a potential career as an opera singer or environmental campaigner. Maybe she has a bottom drawer stuffed with designs for clothes or landscaped gardens - but hadn’t considered turning interest into a career.

There is an infinity of possible routes she might take - now she has recognised the seed of ambition inside her.

If you have children the you probably want something flexible. What about a beauty course where you can offer mobile beauty treatments? Facials or brows, lashes or hair extensions for example I think it all depends on your interests and what you would be happy doing.

Have a look at some youtube video there is so much information online now days and try to look at this as an exciting time in your life the possibilities are unless :)