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Is his dad being emotionally abusive?

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Avalaura · 15/07/2019 17:59

My 9 and 10 year old sons has got fed up of their dad not turning up. Their dad has always had chance after chance and I never stopped him seeing our sons. He made promises to have them overnight, to take them to clubs and stuff but never did.
He only saw them about 3 times a year all through their life if lucky. Sometimes didn't turn up even when they were looking through window.
He buys himself the most expensive cars and clothes goes to clubs with friends and they get charity shop toys for christmas. And I have to pay for everything they need. One time I asked for help just £10 and he said I get enough money I should look after them. And then cause I said you should pay them too you're their father he just said do you want me to count how much I let you borrow.
For our 9y Olds birthday he got nothing. So 3 weeks after his bday his dad wants to see him but our son said no but our 10 y old did go out with for 2 hours and brought him a toy. And when he came back he said his dad said if he doesn't come with him he isn't getting a present. My heart broke and I was so angry!
Anyway, today my oldest son remembered that his dad told him stuff about my past which is none of my business (to do with religion). I just can't believe it!
I really don't believe he deserves these kids they are such good kids, do well in school and they just get played about and treated like that. What should I do?

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limestars · 15/07/2019 21:43

Not much advice I can give but to make time for yourself and to give your dc lots of love.
You can't make him better nor can you change how he acts.

My exh spent last year buying his ds's £180 on a rack sack, £220 on a jacket that doesn't fit, then came the gf. My 14 year old is getting pretty pissed off with him now.
He hardly sees them, he hasn't done anything with them in so long and it was the 12 years old bday this week but nothing.
Took a day off to take him and his gf to Thorpe park and went to Spain my ds get nothing, not even bowling anymore.

Worse thing is I got dragged through court for this shit and he does sweet fuck all.

But.... my boys are happy because I am open with then and still to this day to my best to tell them it's not there fault it's just their df hasn't grown up.

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