When do you give up

[Firsttimeuser12]

I have a 8 week old baby who is my world but me and his dad can't get on. There's constant arguing at home, mostly over nothing. Its bringing me down and isn't healthy for anyone. However I'd like my boy to be brought up with his parents together, I'm not sure when enough is enough and where to get the strength to actually walk out. How did everyone come to this decision?

@Firsttimeuser12

Your baby is so small. It is a time of big adjustment for you all.

We all planned for our families to work and hope that we will make it through together. But you both have to want it and work together. That isn't always easy. And with a young baby resent builds quickly over working and sleep.

Sadly I didn't get a say in when to give up. Ex left. But he was behaving very badly towards me and the children. I believe so that I would ask him to leave. So I would be the bad person.

It hasn't been easy. But the children are much olde than yours.

Lean on people. Let them support you and try to talk things through with your partner before you make any decisions.

Have a plan. Somewhere to go. And access to your own money. So that you always have options.

I would look at how things were prior to your birth .

Having a newborn is exhausting and doesn’t enhance relationships.

It depends what the roots of the problem are

Really I don't think many people are at their best when a baby is that age. I certainly wasn't, and neither was DH. Give it time, and then re-evaluate. For now concentrate on yourself and your baby. Other things can definitely wait (and don't need to be rushed at such a time).

as above - depends how thing were before baby?

i was single before giving birth - and am. Its tough but do-able. I am constantly tired but you just get on with it because you have to.

Dont be miserable, lifes too short.

We were on verge of splitting when I found it I was pregnant. He wasn't massively supportive through the pregnancy and went on drinking benders for days to the point he didn't go to work. He has a 5 year old which doesn't make things easier. I was on my own for 6 nights last week and actually found it easier. Appreciate it won't be like that all the time but it made me think that it shouldn't be that way