Very recently bereaved-need kids holiday

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Advice please. I want to get away with my two kids (age 7 and 9) after their Dad’s funeral next week. I know I won’t cope with parenting them well whilst we are still all reeling from losing their Dad unless it includes some downtime for me. I want to find a holiday which includes time when the kids are doing supervised fun stuff and I can re-charge. Does anyone know somewhere where kids are supervised for part of the day and is also somewhere beautiful and without arcades or too much noise (even if the kids love that!)?

So sorry for your loss OP. Are you looking to holiday in UK or elsewhere?

My immediate thought when I read this was centreparcs - just for ease of activities and they have sessions you can leave the kids in and really nice spa facilities. It's ridiculously expensive during school holidays however so depends on your budget.

Look at Neilson Holidays. Plenty of activities for kids. However it is v last minute. So sorry for your loss

Tell me to mind my own but

After their Dads funeral will the kids really want to be whisked away to join in ‘happy’ activities with an adult stranger who didn’t know their dad or understand their loss.
They may need time to process what’s happened and time to grieve.

Most probably abroad but UK could also be nice. We will visit friends in the UK so abroad would perhaps be better.

Then I would massively recommend Valamar Dubrovnik - it was amazing for things with the kids, by the coast in Croatia and very lovely. Don't know if you'd be able to book now though, it seems to be booked up quite a while in advance.

If you are wanting alone time you need to look for kids clubs although they have to be the kind of children who would go for this to work .

Can I just though recommend post funeral is a really hard time. The focus has gone and all that is left is the grief .

With school holidays vtgey May do better with some holiday type club and you can just be yourself at home .

Thanks for the suggestions and also those who raised the point about whether going away is the best idea. It is impossible to know how the kids and I will be over the summer holidays but a trip away feels like a good idea.

Checkout SingleWithKids. They do UK and European holidays.
Just recentky went on holiday with them and there were 2 women on that holiday who had lost their husbands - although not as recent as you have.

I'm very sorry for your loss OP. I hope you're receiving lots of support from loved ones and specialised bereavement groups.

I would suggest any decent all inclusive hotel which has a kids program. First Choice our Tui would be good places to look online as you can filter for kids clubs. Please just read the reviews on trip advisor too to check they are ok.

Could someone come on the holiday with you? Maybe a friend or family member. It might be nice to have some emotional support around you. Escaping sounds like a great idea but in reality you'll be in unfamiliar surroundings when you need people the most.

Also just to add there are no rules for grieving. You must do what feels right for you. Whether something is wrong or right is irrelevant, it's simply about surviving initially.